A Stunning Validation by Jeffrey Moussaieff Masson: The Assault on Truth, The Origins of Psychoanalysis
Curiosity and attention to detail paid off this time. Am I obsessive at looking things (and people) up?
Perhaps some are just not curious enough. That act is called gathering data (scanning the horizon) for related information.
Yesterday [@Feb. 2013], it had been my intent simply to present some basic information on the domination of psychology and education as fields of choice for those involved in population management through the courts. BUT — a single woman from Indiana University’s “Department of Psychological and Brain Sciences,” (cf. Kaiser Wilhelm Brain Institute, and there is a connection), well, enough was enough and one thing led to another.
Freud KNEW but he was censored and silenced. It haunted him. Others knew (including Anna Freud) but they also censored. I’m getting tired of all that….
In writing this post, I looked up some personnel. One of them (below), a 2012 AFCC Stanley Cohen awardee, had participated in “The Kinsey Institute.” I looked up one of the other investigators and in a book list ran across: Jeffrey Moussaieff Masson: “Against Therapy: Emotional Tyranny and the Myth of Psychological Healing.” (2012):
File this Article under What a Difference One Person can Make, if that person:
Has Guts, Will Obtain Evidence, Look at Evidence, and Come to Logical Conclusion regarding Evidence Obtained
1997 interview with Marv Bryer.
Can you read 7 pages “for the cause”? And think about it?
If given a brief pop-quiz of about 10th grade level on what it’s talking about, how much of the vocabulary or ideas could you remember?
Show me in some comments that, as an adult (college grad, high school grad, parent, non parent) you can understand the basic commentary here:
(Pls. answer yes, or no).
Note: Guts without Good information is commendable, but not so useful.
Also, this may be the shortest post on record, out of over 500. Appreciate my intent in putting it near the top. Thanks!
[Intro paragraphs -- some of underlines below are hyperlinks. Publ. 12/27/2012; Rev. 2-19-2013]
NOTE: OVERALL THIS BLOG IS FOR BOTH GENDERS, AND TO THE WIDER PUBLIC WHO MAY NOT EVEN BE STRUNG OUT HANDLING DOMESTIC VIOLENCE OR SEXUAL ABUSE (OR SIMPLY FINANCIAL DESTRUCTION) CASES IN THE COURT.
Truth, however framed, is offensive, and my blog certainly will offend plenty. However, I am still more interested in systems, and perhaps the mentality of the people that designed them, tolerate them, staff them, and fund them. Society has to have some labels, and designations, to work as do systems. I think different personalities gravitate to certain portions of certain systems — but there are SOME systems which affect almost everyone. So like it or not, their damages have to be discussed; there is no other way to mitigate them.
Overall, it is an appeal for the public to wake up. To identify and find ways to quit financing institutions within America that undermine justice (as defined in terms of due process, representative government of ANY sort, and oppose over-centralization of power). Doing this requires identifying and letting go of significant myths on which the economy** — and from there, most social relationships (in fact, from which society) — is based.
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This blog has VALUABLE INSIGHT on the family courts money trail (a trail of tears), and about many crisis intervention groups who are in on it (and hence, won’t blog it), and from some of whom I sought help, solace, or actionable information — and got NONE.
I have had to ask, WHY would any group which truly wants to save lives withhold relevant information in the amounts of billions (as to the child support system, HHS/OCSE) while feeding less helpful information to their clients? You should also ask why — where is that money coming from, and why does our government always want to raise taxes when they can’t keep track of what they already collected (MUCH more than is commonly realized) and when a lot of that is simply fed to fraudulent or evanescent corporations that don’t stay registered at the state level?
The information has been out there, for some decades — but undervalued and derailed by deluge of less relevant and less actionable information . I plan to change this, as do others; and I do think the tide is beginning to turn — driven from OUTSIDE the mainstream media, and now getting at least in part, into some parts of it:
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If you just got this post by Twitter or as a wordpress follower, know it wasn’t fully-cooked yet. I was in the process of separating one long into two shorter posts — Looks like “Save Draft” was NOT pressed and “Publish” was.
Some of my published posts my also look half-baked (or too “runny”) but I have a little pride left — and that one was definitely not ready for public. So expect a better version. I’ll change the title some.
I don’t believe I’d even made the main point yet!……
Unless a lifetime of welfare, begging, or fighting in the courts sounds like fun, I suggest people learn to get a grip (understand), if not from me, from someone better equipped to relate this — about which way the winds are blowing, which is to say, which way the money (income-producing assets, aka “wealth”) is flowing.
We ought to have a post — or a page at a minimum — on the Carlyle Group (a very interesting history), at a minimum at least 150 years of recent history spanning two or three continents (like: United States, Europe (London, Germany, the Netherlands, etc. — and Africa). I got a start on another blog over at:
I figure there are different approaches:
Passive — let someone else deal with it, and think about it, and go back to work (thereby contributing to the problem — by contributing to the investment platform which, given a little attention, it’s pretty obvious workers are doing. Which sheds a different understanding on the whole concept of the income tax, the Social Security Act, (social services per se) and a lot more.
Active — jump in, and by doing also get the understanding, and at least improve your personal situation. This should also free up some time for more political activity, which is definitely needed.
ANYHOW — here’s a Pension and Investments on-line that as of 12/27/2010 is reporting on the largest FOUNDATIONS based on their pension holdings, for the year 2009.
What amazes me is that, having done so many lookups, so very many of them have been dumping money into the courts, and promoting marriage and fatherhood, not to mention adoption incentives. I don’t see that any of them are particularly feminist or concerned about violence towards mothers AFTER they separate from abusive fathers…. Here’s that list.
I’m going to talk about #17 in this post. I brought up #5 in a post yesterday (CDRC post) and FYI, Ford, Robert Wood Johnson, Kellog, John d and Catherine T. MacAthur, Lilly (of course0, Rockefeller, Carnegie, Charles Stewart Mott, Cargill (although I forget for what) and others HAVE come up when it comes to family court matters. As has The Tulsa Initiative.
My first indicator was learning that MDRC (formerly Manpower Development Research Corporation), on which Ron Haskins, Isabella Sawhill and some others sit as board members — was formed in 1974 as a cooperative effort between FEDERAL government and PRIVATE agencies. I started reporting on it (particularly its piechart page showing funding) and “outing’ the multiple fatherhood demonstration projects written up in glowing terms (Parents Fair Share) which – from other web sources — were rife with overbilling, and subjected to audits. These foundations are all over the map (geographically) and “like white on rice’ when it comes to matters of controlling individual families’ relationships with their own (or so they thought!) kids!
So, at least read the list, OK?
(Pionline.com article dated 12/27/2010. Merry Christmas)
Ranked by total assets, in U.S. billions, as of Dec. 31, 2009, unless otherwise noted.
|1||Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation||$33.91|
|3||J. Paul Getty Trust2||$9.34|
|4||The Robert Wood Johnson Foundation||$8.49|
|5||The William and Flora Hewlett Foundation||$6.87|
|6||W. K. Kellogg Foundation3||$6.81|
|7||The David and Lucile Packard Foundation||$5.70|
|8||The John D. and Catherine T. MacArthur Foundation||$5.24|
|9||Gordon and Betty Moore Foundation||$5.20|
|10||Lilly Endowment Inc.||$5.15|
|11||The Andrew W. Mellon Foundation||$5.05|
|12||Tulsa Community Foundation4||$3.80|
|13||The Rockefeller Foundation||$3.32|
|14||The Kresge Foundation||$3.13|
|15||The California Endowment5||$3.08|
|16||The Leona M. and Harry B. Helmsley Charitable Trust6||$2.67|
|17||The Annie E. Casey Foundation||$2.64|
|18||The Susan Thompson Buffett Foundation4||$2.52|
|19||The Duke Endowment||$2.48|
|20||Carnegie Corporation of New York1||$2.43|
|21||Robert W. Woodruff Foundation, Inc.||$2.40|
|22||Margaret A. Cargill Foundation4||$2.12|
|23||Charles Stewart Mott Foundation||$2.08|
|24||John S. and James L. Knight Foundation||$2.08|
|25||Conrad N. Hilton Foundation||$1.98|
|26||Walton Family Foundation, Inc.4||$1.95|
|27||Open Society Institute4||$1.93|
|28||The Harry and Jeanette Weinberg Foundation, Inc.5||$1.77|
|29||Casey Family Programs4||$1.76|
|30||Silicon Valley Community Foundation||$1.75|
|31||The New York Community Trust||$1.74|
|32||Alfred P. Sloan Foundation||$1.62|
|33||Kimbell Art Foundation4||$1.61|
|34||The Annenberg Foundation2||$1.60|
|35||The Cleveland Foundation4||$1.60|
|36||The McKnight Foundation4||$1.58|
|37||The Bloomberg Family Foundation, Inc.4||$1.57|
|38||Richard King Mellon Foundation4||$1.53|
|39||Doris Duke Charitable Foundation||$1.53|
|40||The Chicago Community Trust1||$1.50|
|41||Ewing Marion Kauffman Foundation4||$1.49|
|42||The James Irvine Foundation||$1.45|
|43||Houston Endowment Inc.||$1.43|
|44||The Simons Foundation2||$1.41|
|45||The Heinz Endowments||$1.37|
|46||Eli & Edythe Broad Foundation4||$1.35|
|47||The Wallace Foundation||$1.28|
|48||The Starr Foundation4||$1.20|
|50||California Community Foundation7||$1.12|
Notes: 1: Data are as of Sept. 30, 2009. 2: Data are as of June 30, 2009. 3: Data are as of Aug. 31, 2009. 4: Data are as of Dec. 31, 2008. 5: Data are as of Feb. 28, 2009. 6: Data are as of March 31, 2009. 7: Data are as of June 30, 2010. Source: The Foundation Center
Believe it or not, I do want feedback. The “contact” form here raises general topics and asks for feedback — and it’s intended for any post (or link) on the entire blog. I am especially interested if someone has a better idea of how to organize or present the material — which wouldn’t require either technology I don’t have (i.e., this is just a wordpress blog, the free kind) or hundreds of volunteer hours I also don’t have, nor do I feel like managing a host of volunteers.
I’m not a facebook person; that’s unlikely to happen. I’m also not much of a Twitterer. I like to look things up, understand, and speak about what I see. In a relatively informed manner. Generally speaking, give me 10-15 minutes (max) on an advocacy blog, and I can tell if they are aware — or unaware — of the general setup of the family courts. Five years ago, I could not have done that because two few people who knew the basics — had the wherewithal to get these basics out, and publicize it. And I hadn’t yet detoxed from the cults of the legal, DV, (etc.) experts who for some reason, simply don’t bother to mention the most important factors driving the court system.
Perhaps having inhabited courtrooms for so long which, while they’re probably quite stressful, are also paying the bills, they simply don’t notice who’s paying the court’s bills, or who are the lobbyists for special interests, or in short, how those dots are connected.
This country is no longer a good place for certain categories of people to be. I am a mother, and did not deserve, nor did my children deserve, what they were forced to witness and experience through their entire childhoods (until and beyond age 18), and they particularly didn’t deserve what occurred AFTER I filed that restraining order about halfway through the process.
I had no other real option than to file; certainly no one offered me housing, or a safe place prior to then — yet that temporary vulnerability was exploited to the max simply because of our collective economic setup, in which crime is rewarded, not restrained, and which requires a constant source of poor or marginalized families (especially with kids) to “justify” further taxation. In other words, people fleeing violence and needing to resort to public welfare probably do NOT have a family support system. Hence, why would welfare, then, try to reconnect the same individuals with family members who either (1) were themselves abusive (very), or (2) who were aware of the abuse, and enabled it, and/or (3) faith communities, ditto?
It really boils down to economics, which are of course connected as well. So, like it or not, we ALL have to understand more than we do, and quit speaking into the air, without understanding what the walls of the room resonate to. As it turns out, a whole lot of private funding drives public policy that builds the rooms we are shouting about court corruption (etc.) in.
Look at a recent Wall Street Journal on how Private Equity Buyout Firms are now Building — Dams — instead:
(the title is also a link to the article)
May 14, 2013, Wall Street Journal, in “Markets.” See photo:
The private-equity firm Blackstone, branching out from corporate takeovers, built a hydropower dam, above, on the White Nile in Uganda.
BUJAGALI, Uganda—A new dam at the headwaters of the White Nile, nearly 20 years in the making, generates almost half of this East African country’s electricity.
Its owner isn’t a state utility or an energy giant. It is Blackstone Group LP, best known for corporate takeovers.
The private-equity firm built the dam with partners and has a contract with energy-hungry Uganda to sell it power at rates that ensure profits for Blackstone for years to come.
The project, fraught with holdups that included a pirate hijacking and rituals to appease spirits before flooding an island, has little in common with the debt-fueled billion-dollar buyouts Blackstone helped popularize.
But the firm and its rivals increasingly are moving beyond the buyout playbook in search of other, sometimes unfamiliar sources of profit: drilling for oil in Oklahoma, building tract homes in North Dakota or shipping gasoline on the high seas.
What does private equity have to do with family courts, child protection, or anything else?
Well, guess where I heard about Blackstone (let alone Carlyle, another formerly Private Equity firm)?
Annie E. Casey Foundation. Here’s a fancy (visually clear, graphics, color, well-designed) January 2012 publication (just found) on an “AECF.org” (Annie E. Casey Foundation) website. It’s called “Skin In The Game” regarding Arizonans and put out by Children’s Advocacy Alliance (Board membership at the very back page).
Up front (about page 2) it quotes a billionaire founder of private equity Blackstone Group as saying Arizonans don’t have enough “skin in the game” — and this brochure is countering that, I gather in opposition to a movement for a flat tax to replace the graduated income tax. The general tone is Annie E. Casey is going to speak up for the poor people against this billionaire’s unfair mindset, from The Blackstone Group. Take a look: Page 3 is the Blackstone quote, look at a few other pages from this “Children’s Advocacy Alliance” of Arizona.
Annie E. Casey and its Foundation is all over the family court arena (especially when it comes to foster care and promoting responsible fatherhood). I have a topic over at Scranton Political Times on some of their involvements. They are a major philanthropy.
Look at how AECF makes ITS income: — here’s its 1999 tax return
As you can see from the URL, for the record, EIN# 52-1951681.
Annie E. Casey Foundation, INC. is a Private Exempt Foundation based in Baltimore, and its “FMV” of all assets at the end of this year (cash basis, not accrual) shows as $3.6 billion: that’s $3,626,229,530. (that,s about 14 years ago…. Wonder what it is in 2013!).
“The Annie E. Casey Foundation is a private charitable organization, dedicated to helping build better futures for disadvantaged children in the United States. It was established in 1948 by Jim Casey, one of the founders of UPS, and his siblings, who named the Foundation in honor of their mother.”
This doesn’t need major contributions, but got over $1 million in 1999; however the primary income seems to come from these categories:
$2,267,309 = Interest on Savings and Temporary Cash Investments:
$50,208,214 = Dividends and interest from SECURITIES.
$69,875,572 = Net gain (or loss) from sale of assets not on line 10 (which is, net income from sales)
Not too bad. Now, after all the income, the EXPENSES. Compensation of officers & directors — very moderate. Employees, about $5 million. Add in pension plan, legal fees, travel/conferences (guess on what? A lot of things involving foster care, or “models for change” demonstration projects, i.e., let’s practice on an entire STATE), printing and publication, professional fees, and “other” ($7+million), they also gave away (CONTRIBUTIONS/GRANTS) Over $103 million.
Resulting in a net loss (which this foundation obviously could afford!) of – $3.09 million.
(In general — start reading some of these grants). Its 5 employees (President, VP, etc.) are VERY well paid, as well as contractors. They are active in the following states (in 1999):
Connecticut – Delaware – Maine – Maryland — Massachusetts – New Hampshire – New York – Pennsylvania — Rhode Island – Texas – Virginia – Washington – Washington, D.C.
What areas do we think they might be active in? (well, follow the grants) — here’s an indication:
(Search Results, first of several pages) Responsible Fatherhood/Healthy Marriage studies at AECF.
Statement 6 (of the tax return) lists the eight-five (85) (3 pages worth) of grantees (including “Bar Association of San Diego” and several others in a variety of states; a Center for Policy Studies (which one, TBA). This appears to be around $103 million total; it has influence!)
Many of these grants are to an organization which is a Fiscal Agent for a specific initiative. Therefore, this foundation is directly funding certain initiatives, which wouldn’t be known to the general public, unless they read those tax returns.
For example, grants about 75-79 (roughly speaking) were to the Tides Foundation (known as a LARGE progressive, umbrella funding source for other causes, and fiscal agent for plenty of groups — in San Francisco). For example, if you’ve heard of “Stop Family Violence” (Irene Weiser), some years back it was more active — that’s a Tides Project.
Grantee #78 — Tides Center (which is in San Francisco)
Fiscal agent for “Social Policy Action Network” (which is in DC)
Grant 98.166 — $20K and $100K (1998, 1999)
Provide Assistance to the Fathers and Families Initiative.
or, Grantee #74 — Tate George Dreamshot Foundation
99 Pratt Street #624, Hartford, CT
Support for the “Dads Do Make a Difference” project — $10,000
So what difference is $10K going to make? Well, who knows, but here’s the testimony of the co-founder of the “Tate George Dreamshot Foundation” — a single mother — testifying before the House Ways and Means Committee on “Dads Do Make a Difference (r)” (please notice, it’s a trademark)! On the importance of fatherhood involvement. Suppose I looked up just this ONE grantee, the $10,000 donated from AECF, through which AECF gets to support “Dads Do Make A Difference” (notably, the Casey fortune was made in UPS from a family which lost its Dad)…
Statement of Lisa A. Nkonoki, Co-Founder and Executive Director
Tate George Dreamshot Foundation, Newington, Connecticut
Testimony Before the Subcommittee on Human Resources
of the House Committee on Ways and Means
Hearing on Fatherhood
April 27, 1999
Dads Do Make A Difference is a positive movement with a message. Working with Dads and kids is a transformative, and sometimes eye-opening experience. Most importantly, it?s an opportunity to capture or recapture something we all have in common…a father. One of the ?DDMAD? missions being, to increase the positive interactions of dads and other positive males and kids.
Many of us are blessed to share the experience with a dad, and still far to many of us share a common void, a lifetime scar from the lack of having that father involved in our lives for a variety of reasons. In many cases, nothing will replace or erase the pain, which often times is far too great for many of us to bear. Studies clearly show the positive impact that an involved father has on his children whether they live in the same household or not, when it comes to education and self esteem. However, when this is not an option, we also know through the DDMAD Project, being able to talk about it, and realizing that you are not alone, and sharing other like experiences can be healthy, and hopefully will help us to positively move forward, leaving any negative feelings, or embarrassment behind and finally being at peace with our place, and those who put us here on this planet.
Turns out Ms. Nkonoki is also a founding member of “Women in Fatherhood Inc.” (which took some HHS grants) also a heavily Annie E. Casey connected organization (nonprofit), and not your typical single mother, given media experience and Congressional connections:
“Who is Lisa Nkonoki?“
Lisa has an incredible resume! By the age of 18, she had worked in her grandfather’s fish market; produced and co-hosted a television show, What About Women; was a press intern on Capitol Hill for a Connecticut Congressman; worked in radio management as a media trainee; and ventured to Hollywood to work with legendary producer Norman Lear on his hit television shows behind the scenes.
Lisa is regarded as the first single mom in the country to start, advocate, and cheer on a positive program for dads.
Lisa’s testimony in front of a congressional committee back in April 1999, was a catalyst in the now thriving Fatherhood Movement across the country.
Her “Dads Do Make A Difference” Program has provided direct service to more than 10,000 dads and families in CT and beyond, creating awareness as well as a national movement. She is also the founding member of “Women in Fatherhood,” fighting for fairness for families in court, and has served as a consultant around key fatherhood issues for the Annie E Casey Foundation.
Tate George, turns out, had the confidence to take that 16-footer dreamshot in 1990, despite having been terribly burdened (raised by a single mother), somehow looks like he came out OK — although he’s separated from his wife:
Archive: Taking His Best Shot In The Business Arena Ex-UConn Hero Tate George Still Pursuing Dreams
September 28, 1999|By PATRICIA SEREMET, The Hartford Courant
Every blue and white-blooded UConn fan remembers the shot.
NCAA game, March 22, 1990, at The Meadowlands. One second left on the clock, UConn down by one.
Freshman Scott Burrell throws the ball full court to senior captain Tate George. He makes a 16-foot turnaround jumper from the right corner to give UConn a 71-70 win over Clemson and advance UConn to the final 8.
“It’s Late, It’s Tate, It’s Great,” read The Courant’s front-page headline the next day. UConn went on to lose to Duke that year, but the shot was immortalized — locally anyhow — as the dream shot.
In the huddle, George said, he wasn’t supposed to be the man to take it. But he felt confident enough, he said, that he whispered “give it to me” to Burrell, who was a freshman and obeyed. As he pursues life as an entrepreneur, where “nothing but net” means profits, not points, George still sees himself as the “go-to” guy.
It’s almost 10 years since that shot. Hardly a day goes by that somebody doesn’t make a comment to him about it, or tell where they were when it went in.
So what’s Tate’s fate since that famous date?
Weighing 230, George has packed only 10 pounds onto his 6-foot-5 frame since playing in the pros. He lives in Farmington, and plays ball regularly with “a bunch of lawyers, doctors, and frustrated athletes” at St. Joseph College, and at Storrs with the UConn team in practice. He lifts weights in repetition, alternating chest, back, arms, legs.
George isn’t crying. In fact, as he dined on salmon in a mango salsa sauce at The Savannah one recent afternoon, he looked pretty happy.
He also looked really happy the night that UConn beat Duke in the Final Four. He was a commentator for Channel 3, kissed sportscaster Joe Tessitore, lit up a cigar, and sang “Heaven Must Be Like This,” a song his mother used to play on the record player back in Jersey.
He enjoyed it. In fact, he’s been a basketball commentator for ESPN International with his English voice over games in 152 countries.
But he doesn’t see himself doing TV and radio commentary full time.
“I have so many other aspirations,” George said. “I don’t want to get pigeon-holed.”
He keeps up with the Tate George Dream Shot Foundation, which he started in 1992 with Lisa Nkonoki to encourage young people to pursue their dreams. One of its most notable programs is “Dads Do Make a Difference,” which encourages young men, particularly fathers, to be positive role models by sponsoring dads-and-kids events.
“I grew up in a single-parent home,” George said. “Kids need positive males in their life, even if they’re not their father. God bless women. But boys can’t be men unless they see one.”
Although he is separated from his wife of five years, George said he is devoted to his two daughters, Jasmine, 9, and Alexys, 4.
The tax return is over 700 -pages long, as it describes the grants individually….
Almost every “veteran” of the family and conciliation courts,* who has had to either pay, or attempt to collect (or both) child support, or file anything related to safety (of self or child), or defend against being filed against — is going to have something to say. We all have our experiences, and viewpoints on those experiences.
What I am looking for is not just the experiences (often they are bad), or the stories — but how these stories assemble into identifiable patterns, which can connect the dots without leaving out 75% of the picture.
*many who are also veterans of the US military, or children of veterans of wars.
This long overdue contact form is intended to start conversations; hopefully intelligent ones (seeking information and understanding is intelligent behavior; contributing to others understanding IF you have processed some of what you’re contributing is also intelligent behavior). Joining a cult because the cult has press coverage — probably is not.
Looking at tax returns is.
I am a system, conceptual thinker (sorry, goes with the territory) who also can and will want to look at details to see if the patterns of the details prove or disprove the larger concept I have of the system.
TIME is LIFE (LIFE consists of TIME which goes by). Going through certain kinds of hell (good description) and pain (very good description) does teach you some things, one of which is, the importance of judgment, another which is the importance of understanding the larger (political, governmental, judicial, cultural) etc. environment we are in. I was in an abusive marriage, and got out (sort of) — but was a complete novice towards the court system, other than the value judgment — screwed up, deaf dumb and blind to ongoing risk.
I found that experiential and anecdotal learning wasn’t enough. I also learned that knowing the vocabulary of domestic violence (as helpful as that was a leverage to decide to get OUT) was not enough. The vocabulary and understanding I would’ve liked earlier — was the understanding of the Conciliation Courts (overall) and of the Welfare-Reform-Transformation which included among its clothing, the swishing robes and coat-tails of healthy marriage and responsible fatherhood funding. In other words, Liz Richards, Cindy Ross, and Marv Byer — who ALL wrote about some of this — were not enough.
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Flipping Cause and Effect: AFCC Rhetoric in Action: Got Custody Killings? Blame it on the Bad Language.
This post is for a brief (ha, ha, ha, right?) teaching point. I’ve never met, heard speak, or spoken to this particular woman (mediator, custody & divorce lawyer, AFCC member) and could’ve picked another individual for an example based on their website. However, it’s not every day one sees something so “AFCC” openly suggesting that because mayhem (murder) correlates to custody battles, the real problem is the word “custody,” which should be abolished, and then goes immediately into quoting AFCC (The California Chapter)’s public declaration that the treatment of children IN the courts is a public health crisis — and therefore, the overloaded judges and courts need more resources…
I have been advising parents (in particular) to figure out WHO in the lobbying, rules-of-court-changing, profession-inventing, task-force-chairing State by State Supreme Court (or thereabouts) legal/judicial powerhouses — has AFCC affiliations, or at least has drunk that Kool-aid. As a handle, it’s definitely an indicator. Many symptoms accompany membership. When a certain panorama of symptoms show up (this particular post has most of them, like idiocy) then the diagnosis “AFCC” is probably pretty accurate, whether or not it’s on the website already as a nametag.
The same Association (loosely speaking, given how inconsistent are the incorporation records) appears to unilaterally taken credit for the basic formation of family and conciliation courts to start with, which in other places (on other website), they call positive, innovative, problem-solving, and all things healthy. Talk about flipping cause and effect, and dodging accountability!!! We’re in it deep. Taken at face value, these people (at least the rank and file) are insane, illogical, and evasive, and have a casual disregard for the truth, or even attempting (for the public at large) to connect what they say to it.
Possibly some have been hypnotized or entranced by the hypnotic allure of power, or by some of the leadership with known connections to practicing the art of confusion and hypnosis itself i.e., the Milton H. Erickson crowd. (read at least first three paragraphs of this “Cliff notes” to the topic. Here’s just one paragraph:
For hypnotic rapport to become established you must appear rational and sensible most of the time. Then when you do become confusing they will work harder at focusing because they will logically assume it’s them missing some meaning that ought to be clear, and if they focus hard enough they will get it. Confusion as a technique should be used wisely and sparingly. You wouldn’t want to become known as ’that person who just talks gibberish!’
Same idea behind “Moses and the burning bush.” First, you get their attention. It’s not a new concept…Also, like Moses, once he turned and started listening, his life went through what looks like some rapid? and radical changes. From JHOM:
Theophany at the Burning Bush (by Nahum Sarna)
While tending his flocks in the desolate wilderness, Moses arrived at Horeb, the “mountain of God.” Here he suddenly beheld an awesome spectacle that defied nature’s laws and all human experience. A bush was all aflame yet remained intact, unaffected by the fire. Given its non-material, formless, mysterious and luminous characteristics, it is understandable that fire is frequently used in descriptions of the manifestation of the Divine Presence. 
. . .
Overcome with irresistible fascination at the astonishing scene, yet now profoundly sensible of the divine potency with which the place is charged, Moses’ attention shifts from the visual to the aural. The sight of the Burning Bush fades away and is not mentioned again. Its place is taken by the Divine Voice. Here, too, a transformation takes place. The imperious Voice, commanding and admonishing, gives way to softer tones of pathos, concern, and tidings of liberation.
The parallel here is quite loose. What Moses saw (according to the story), and what I saw are quite different — but definitely gripping: HOW can this (level of illogic) exist?? WHY is our society putting up with so much of this influence, unnoticed, but powerful, throughout our own court system, which we pay for? Who charmed whom into insensibility? I mean, sometimes, you gotta just ask WHY.
What I’m going to show, posted (presumably written?) by an “Orange County Mediator, Divorce and Custody Lawyer” today IS gibberish if language has meaning, and if history (of the development of our conciliation and family court system) exists. However, in a cause-less and irresponsible world of the eternal “now” (except when gloriously relating a mythological past of heroic exploits) — I guess ANYthing goes. And as such, an ethereal (rarely consistently “incorporated”) Association (that calls itself “AFCC” for the most part) has a set of followers who have never seen it in the flesh, most likely, and are spreading fabulous stories of what it can do — if only more tributes would come in, and competition (such as other languages symbolizing “OLD” belief systems, like the kind that actually have a right and wrong encoded into the criminal law, with consequences attached — not just therapy, plus more therapy, plus more problem-solving courts…..)…
And it got my attention — yes, I was “caught” by the sheer audacity of the irrationality of it. Note: Abusers can do the same thing. They talk out of both sides of their mouth immediately after an incident, or when confronted on an incident, and cannot or will not be pinned down to the truth.
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This post is an off-ramp to too much commentary, as I watched in stunned incredulity, an AFCC professional (a.k.a. a custody and divorce lawyer and mediator)stumbling around the language of logic and attempting to piece together a semblance of it.
Hey, my blog — it humors me to say all this. There’s no real intention to organize or structure it. I took it off the original post will leave a footprint (link) there. That’s it.
This was taken out of the introductory section.
Regarding “the art of confusion” — it’s a real technique taught by therapists and psychoanalysts to put people into a trance; particularly people who are intellectually resistant to the concept of “going under” and like to believe they are in cognitive control of their own minds (I must admit, a desirable state in general).