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Who’s Your Daddy? Er, your Mommy? er. . . . Let the Courts Order…

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This NYT article from Dec. 13th is overdue for posting.  A story of how important motherhood really IS and what lengths a mother (whether financial,  or surrogate — neither with any biological relationship) will go to protect their own.

Sounds like, here, both the people who PAID for the babies (they were twins) and the surrogate mother (no biological relationship) were happily married.  And it would seem in both cases, employed…Surrogacy is a job…

 Anyway, I presented some “teaser” information.  Check out the article (multiple links and graphics), and just ask yourself, what are the responsible fatherhood folk going to do with THIS one? 

Building a Baby, With Few Ground Rules

Uncertain Laws on Surrogacy Can Leave Custody at Issue.

Unable to have a baby of her own, Amy Kehoe became her own general contractor to manufacture one.

For Ms. Kehoe and her husband, Scott, the idea seemed like their best hope after years of infertility.

Working mostly over the Internet, Ms. Kehoe handpicked the egg donor, a pre-med student at the University of Michigan. From the Web site of California Cryobank, she chose the anonymous sperm donor, an athletic man with a 4.0 high school grade-point average.

On another Web site, surromomsonline.com, Ms. Kehoe found a gestational carrier who would deliver her baby.

Finally, she hired the fertility clinic, IVF Michigan, which put together her creation last December.

“We paid for the egg, the sperm, the in vitro fertilization,” Ms. Kehoe said as she showed off baby pictures at her home near Grand Rapids, Mich. “They wouldn’t be here if it weren’t for us.”

[[So far, so good . . . . Everything is worked out.  Looks like the courts, the police, and the parental education folk will have to go look somewhere else, as well as supervised visitation supervisors….]]

 

A month later, a police officer supervised as the Kehoes relinquished the swaddled infants in the driveway.

Bridget and Ethan are now in the custody of the surrogate who gave birth to them, Laschell Baker of Ypsilanti, Mich. Ms. Baker had obtained a court order to retrieve them after learning that Ms. Kehoe was being treated for mental illness.

“I couldn’t see living the rest of my life worrying and wondering what had happened, or what if she hadn’t taken her medicine, or what if she relapsed,” said Ms. Baker, who has four children of her own.

Now, she and her husband, Paul, plan to raise the twins.

The creation of Ethan and Bridget tested the boundaries of the field known as third-party reproduction, in which more than two people collaborate to have a baby. Five parties were involved: the egg donor, the sperm donor, Ms. Baker and the Kehoes. And two separate middlemen brokered the egg and sperm.

 

Well, that’s not my main post this afternoon….  Interesting reading, though.  I poke fun at Designer Families from the Top-Down perspective.  But you ain’t seen nothin’ yet . . . .

 

Alternate Takes on Abstinence-Only Education

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I felt we needed a comic break.  Or course, good satire often hits close to home.

I also felt that I should take a break from mocking Responsible Fatherhood and Healthy Marriage Education.

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  • Salon.com News | Third columnist caught with hand in the Bush till

    Jan 27, 2005 Salon has confirmed that Michael McManus, a marriage advocate whose syndicated to help promote Bush’s No Child Left Behind program to minority audiences. help push proposals, according to a report Thursday in USA Today. hired by HHS to implement the Community Healthy Marriage Initiative,
    www.salon.com/news/feature/2005/01/27/mcmanus/print.html
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    You should also read THIS site to better understand WHY HHS “just happens” to be so happily forcing happily ever after or else down our throats.   And we are paying for it, too! 

     

    http://old.mediatransparency.org/personprofile.php?personID=89

    (3 & 4)

  • Propaganda of The Police State -Bush Orders an End to Hiring

    In 2002, Gallagher contributed to an essay promoting marriage that appeared …. to promote Bush’s No Child Left Behind law through advertising on his cable
    www.infowars.com/…/propaganda_bush_orders_end_hiring_columnists.htm
  • Writer Backing Bush Plan Had Gotten Federal Contract

    Jan 25, 2005 Bush’s push for a $300 million initiative encouraging marriage to promote Bush’s No Child Left Behind law through advertising We didn’t pay her to promote the president’s healthy marriage initiative at all.
    http://www.washingtonpost.comPoliticsBush AdministrationSimilar
  •  WELL, OK, here’s part of that 4th site:

    . . . Gallagher received an additional $20,000 from the Bush administration in 2002 and 2003 for writing a report, titled “Can Government Strengthen Marriage?”, for a private organization called the National Fatherhood Initiative. That report, published last year, was funded by a Justice Department grant, said NFI spokesman Vincent DiCaro. Gallagher said she was “aware vaguely” that her work was federally funded.   {{?? ???}}  {{Kind of like  being “vaguely aware” of who the father of one’s baby might be?}}In columns, television appearances and interviews with such newspapers as The Washington Post, Gallagher last year defended Bush’s proposal for a constitutional amendment barring same-sex marriage.

    And these same folks are still up and running strong.  Did I mention that Wade Horn, as I THINK, I recall, is among those highly involved in the origins of the AFCC?

    Wade Horn, HHS assistant secretary for children and families, said his division hired Gallagher as “a well-known national expert,” along with other specialists in the field, to help devise the president’s healthy marriage initiative. “It’s not unusual in the federal government to do that,” he said.

    The essay Gallagher drafted appeared under Horn’s byline — with the headline “Closing the Marriage Gap” — and ran in Crisis magazine, which promotes humanism rooted in Catholic Church teachings. Horn said most of the brochures written by Gallagher — such as “The Top Ten Reasons Marriage Matters” — were not used as the program evolved.

    “I don’t see any comparison between what has been alleged with Armstrong Williams and what we did with Maggie Gallagher,” said Horn, .who founded the National Fatherhood Initiative before entering government.

    Although this is a fast “intro,” some of this info shows the IN-BREEDING involved in these programs and who promotes them.  In other words, those sites are worth studying in more depth.  What we probably need nationally is a few more Wynona Wards to work on the abuse of — power — and money — in these matters.  Or, a lot more Erin Brockoviches. 

    But enough of that on Marriage, Fatherhood, etc.. . . . It’s getting “old.” 

    Accordingly this post is going after “Abstinence Education” instead. 

    The whole concept of continuous funding on almost ANYTHING pertaining to marriage, sex, fatherhood (motherhood), let alone how to balance a checkbook —  from a federal government which has Congressional members like “Hot Mike Duvall,” and a country whose governors include both former Presidents AND Governors who can’t keep their pants zipped or their own marriages together.  I mean, where does one start?  Bill Clinton?  John F. Kennedy?  FDR? 

    And so what if they could?  Are they moral in other areas of life also? 

    That said, I think that we should expect of our leaders TOTAL ethics in these two primary categories:  Money and Sex.  In their personal lives. 

    The government has NO business in my pocketbook except for the most nominal of functions of government, and it absoLUTEly should stay out of my pants, or skirts, and of my kids’, too.  Good grief.

    Again, let me go “religious” on this one (before quoting the next site, which is going to do its own take on religious conservatives) and quote the Bible, Romans, and all that. 

    Note:  If I have inadvertently missed offending a particular group in this post, I will try to catch up next one.   The “PC” gene is crawling up the back of my brain here. 

    Also please maintain a healthy perspective and realize that 2,000 years, gender, religion and culture separate me from this quote!  On the other hand, I think it nails the hypocrisy thing just fine…

    Romans 2: (the hyperlinks are to which Greek word it comes from….)

    17 Behold thou art called a Jew {{See Below at **}} and restest in the law and makest thy boast of God {{**}} 18 And knowest his will and approvest the things that are more excellent being instructed out of the law 19 And art confident that thou thyself art a guide of the blind a light of them which are in darkness 20 An instructor of the foolish a teacher of babes which hast the form of knowledge and of the truth in the law 21 Thou therefore which teachest another teachest thou not thyself thou that preachest a man should not steal dost thou steal 22 Thou that sayest a man should not commit adultery dost thou commit adultery thou that abhorrest idols dost thou commit sacrilege 23 Thou that makest thy boast of the law through breaking the law dishonourest thou God 24 For the name of God is blasphemed among the Gentiles through you as it is written

    {{**case in point, where this reads “Jew,” we might as well read, here, “mental health expert”  or “licensed marriage and family therapist” or almost any other functional description which carries with it the ATTITUDE that adults who can’t get along are somehow now children that need to be taught.

    In our country, legally, adulthood is at age 18 or 21.  For some women, this is suddenly reversed when marrying the wrong person.  For BOTH divorcing parents who weren’t smart and savvy enough to work it out apart from this system entirely, (in which case wouldn’t they have been smart and savvy enough to stay together), suddenly they are become as little kids needing instruction from Der Vaterland….}}

    This quote from Romans 2, written by the apostle Paul (“Saul”) is already volatile enough — other portions of his writings have been used (AB-used?) to justify plenty of violence towards women, and Romans 1 would of course offend anyone in favor of same-sex, well, sex. 

    Anyhow, I’m not this author, who was beheaded in a Roman Prison about 2000 years ago; he paid for insulting the wrong people in power already. 

    I’m just me.  I’m female, Christian, a domestic violence SURVIVOR, and have enough respect that have finally figured out to steer clear of church buildings and those who frequent them.  Except for a good concert or so, when I’m able or in the mood.  

    The best of us on a good day have some hypocrisy, and are not thoroughly honest.  However, is it REALLY necessary to take — forcibly, through the IRS — wages from employees, funnel them through the Feds, and then force-feed back, focusing on LOW-income populations who can’t get around this (gee, how’d they become so low-income to start with?  Possibly through this system?), things like parental education, how NOT to leave a marriage, how to have a double standard of behavior based on gender, and how, when, and with whom to have sex —  when the people preaching this aren’t UNIFORMLY systematically faithful to their smart, typically intelligent if not trophy, and such wives that helped them get elected, gave them children, and so forth? ???  

    I mean, if there weren’t all this preaching, it’d be one thing.  But when there is, then I’d rather see a sermon than hear one.  ANYHOW, back to this:

    “Abstinence Education /

    George Bush”

  • Abstinence Education – Let’s talk about sex

    Aside from invading Iraq, one of George W. Bush’s favorite pet projects is pushing what is called abstinence-only education. According to Bush, the best way
    irregulartimes.com/abstinenceed.html – CachedSimilar
  • Abstinence-only education is founded upon the assumption that giving teenagers complete and accurate information about sex is dangerous. This foundation of George W. Bush’s abstinence agenda goes a long way in explaining the Republican animosity towards education in general. In abstinence-only education we see that Bush and his Republican supporters believe that knowledge is dangerous, and should be kept from people as much as possible.

    What George W. Bush never mentions is that the alternative to abstinence-only education is not some kind of hippy free love seminar in public schools. The medical community and responsible educational organizations promote an alternative called abstinence-plus. You won’t hear conservatives talking about this approach because it makes a lot of sense, and it’s easier for conservatives to sell abstinence-only programs when they’re able to keep parents frightened about unrestrained adolescent promiscuity.

    Abstinence-plus includes a strong component of information about the reasons that abstaining from sex can be an extremely wise choice for teenagers. The difference is that abstinence-plus does more than just tell teenagers not to have sex. Abstinence-plus programs also provide access to full and accurate information about sex, so that students can make intelligent decisions about having sex instead of remaining in the dark until it’s too late. It’s essential for public schools to provide students with complete sex education because if students don’t get their education at school, they’ll search for accurate information elsewhere.

    In a shocking display of naivete, George W. Bush and his Republican supporters suggest that teenagers would have sex less if only public schools did not let them know that sex exists. They ignore the fact that almost all American teenagers are skilled users of the Internet, which has plenty of information, both accurate and inaccurate. It’s the job of public schools to cut through the clutter of publicly available information, and provide an accurate presentation of it for their students. When George W. Bush insists that American public schools only be allowed to teach students about the reasons people should not have sex, he is performing a monumentally perverse act of academic censorship. That not only fails teenagers’ need for serious honesty about sex, it fails their need for an example of democratic principles in action.

    All other points aside, George W. Bush’s anti-education agenda is a dangerous idea because research shows that abstinence-only education just doesn’t work. Not too surprisingly, researchers have found that when teenagers sign pledge forms in front of their parents, promising not to have sex, they’re not really very likely to follow through. In fact, students who sign pledge forms as a part of sexual abstinence training are just as likely to have premarital sex as other students! The same is true of the students in abstinence-only programs in general. Full sexual education, on the other hand, has been shown not to act as an encouragement for students to have sex, and is shown to provide students protection from pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases better than abstinence-only education does. The Bush Administration knows that abstinence-only education does not work at decreasing adolescent sexual behaviors, and actually increases students’ risk of sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancy.

    That’s why George W. Bush ordered that all behavioral standards for evaluating the success of abstinence-only educational programs be eliminated. He didn’t want to the government to gather information that he knew would show abstinence-only education to be a complete failure.

    The ultimate irony is that George W. Bush is pushing abstinence-only education at the same time that he is pushing for governmental programs to be performed by religious organizations.

    Talk about total confusion!  I’ve looked at the grant system, and Catholic Charities is prominent in many of these programs.

     So, Bush’s plan includes promotion of taxpayer funding of abstinence-only programs by, among other groups, the Catholic Church. Given the scandal in the Catholic Church about long term and pervasive sexual assault of children by priests, this plan seems not only doomed to failure, but actually quite dangerous. After all, the Catholic Church, like other major religious institutions, appears to have been unable to convince its own leaders to stop having sex with children.

     How, then, are we supposed to believe that the Catholic Church is deserving of government grants in order to teach teenagers not to have sex with each other?

    Easy:   We are to “Take it on Faith.” . . . . . .

  • Abstinence-only Education | Union of Concerned Scientists

    Since his tenure as governor of Texas, President George W. Bush has made no secret of his view that sex education should teach teenagers “abstinence only”
    http://www.ucsusa.orgScientific IntegrityAbuses of ScienceCachedSimilar
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    Well, on to more worthy endeavors, I was just having some fun here.

    Thrusting Abstinence Education on an Unwary Public: the Bush Push Exposed.

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    Sometimes I feel there is little I can do to stop some of this insanity in government waste, and encroaching total slavery for our country, at this rate, through psychologizing all protest and quarantining people (espec. women) who actually believe that the laws against crime should pertain to them, and be enforced for their protection.  Or, who do not believe that it should be decided in, say, Washington, D.C. & some Institute, whether or not it’s better for them, as an individual (and/or their children, if any) to be married, or unmarried.

    BUT there’s a little satisfaction in making up ridiculous post titles.  If you can’t stop it, mock it, take its pants down and show it in all the ridiculous posture it takes — apart from the hearings in the actual courtrooms… This marriage promotion movement needs to be disrobed.

    Here’s a post I slapped together in September 2009.  It’s not politically correct, I’m sure.

    For a reminder:

    The State of the (Marital) Unions in California  gets a Governmental Boost (while social services of other kinds, get cut):

    THIS FEDERAL REGISTER NOTICE OF AVAILALBILITY OF FUNDS (2004) GOT SNAPPED UP BY AT LEAST ONE MAJOR RECIPIENT.  RECOMMEND WE REVIEW.

    ACF Programs Funding the Healthy Marriage Resource Center:  (It tells you how many diff’t Program offices (or, subdivions if ACF if I have the term wrong) fund this..  There are several, including this one:  CHild SUpport agency (“OCSE”)

    OCSE also funds demonstration projects that seek to integrate supports for healthy marriages and family formation into the existing array of child support enforcement activities. Statutory Authority: Section 452(j) of the Social Security Act.  {{For somen leaving violence, this is kind of like building the boat after the ship sank…}}

    Recipient: California Healthy Marriages Coalition
    Address: 1045 PASSIFLORA AVE
    LEUCADIA, CA 92024-2215
    Country Name: United States of America
    County Name: SAN DIEGO
    DHHS Region: 9
    Type: Other Social Services Organization
    Class: Non-Profit Private Non-Government Organizations

    Award Actions

    FY Award Number Budget Year
    of Support
    Award Code Agency Action Issue
    Date
    Amount This
    Action
    2010 90FE0104 4 02 ACF 03-10-2010 $ 0
    2010 90FE0104 5 00 ACF 09-24-2010 $ 2,400,000
    Fiscal Year 2010 Total: $ 2,400,000

    You got to watch those ones that start small, then reproduce….This one did.

    FY Award Number Budget Year
    of Support
    Award Code Agency Action Issue
    Date
    Amount This
    Action
    2005 90EJ0064 1 0 ACF 09-13-2005 $ 583,475
    Fiscal Year 2005 Total: $ 583,475

    Total of all awards:

    $ 12,525,555

    For a sample of what some of that Grant 90FE104 is going to, see this PDF (a typical Executive Summary);

    In googling the term California Healthy Marriages Coalition, Priority area 1 (and this grant#) I find the oNLY references to it are at their site, and my blog.  I find that unusual……

    I searched this 60-page pdf for the word “domestic violence” (as is my “wont”) and found ONE occurrence only.  Again, this is summarizing (and titled):

    THE STATE OF CALIFORNIA’S UNIONS:  MARRIAGE AND DIVORCE IN THE GOLDEN STATE:

    THE RESEARCH TEAM

    Compiled by:

    Sophia Gomez, Gomez Research

    Developed and Edited by:

    K. Jason Krafsky, California Healthy Marriages Coalition Dennis Stoica, California Healthy Marriages Coalition Patty Howell, California Healthy Marriages Coalition

    Consultation by:

    Dawn Wilson, Wilson Research Consulting

    ABOUT CALIFORNIA HEALTHY MARRIAGES COALITION

    The California Healthy Marriages Coalition (CHMC) is a pioneering non-profit organization that works throughout California to improve the well-being of children by strengthening the relationship of parents through Marriage Education and Relationship Skills classes.

    In 2006, CHMC received a five-year, $11.9 Million grant from Health and Human Services, Administration for Children and Families (HHS/ACF), the largest grant ever awarded by HHS/ACF in support of Healthy Marriages.

    Through this funding, CHMC partners with a network of 23 faith- and community-based organizations (FBCOs) throughout California. Each of CHMC’s funded partner organizations is a coalition consisting of many other FBCOs through which they deliver Marriage Education and Relationship Skills classes, enabling CHMC to reach California’s diverse population by traversing the key demographic dimensions of geography, ethnic/cultural differences, and agency-type FBCOs.

    As a result of these efforts, CHMC expects to see a decline in the marriage/divorce ratio, a reduction in child abuse, domestic violence, poverty, criminal behavior, and an improvement in physical, emotional, and mental health.

    Funding for this project was provided by the United States Department of Health and Human Services, Administration for Children and Families, Grant: 90FE0104. Any opinions, findings, and conclusions or recommendations expressed in this material are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the United States Department of Health and Human Services, Administration for Children and Families.


    Little in this has changed — it’s expanded, and spread — like the flu….

    For the heck of it, I looked up McManus (last name only) under the TAGGS database, and found 65 grants funded, many of them apparently to doctors, some in overlapping fields of study.  I have no idea of the relationships, but just found this interesting.  After all, we abstinent folk have to direct our excess creative (sic) energies somewhere, right?

    I figure we must, at some level, be a society of dogs and masters, because it seems the USA can be divided up into Trainers, and Trainees, and whatever portion of the middle class (such as remains) that has found purpose and solvency and managed to keep their own kiddos and in-laws off the marriage savers healthy starts social improvement group radar.  Get this:

    Marriage Savers at MarriageSavers.com: Preparing, Strengthening, and Restoring Marriages

    Is your marriage in trouble? Click here...

    Explore space, explore the seas, develop nanotechnology; what is there left (as market niche) but to market the training of the human psyche (and reporting on it, as well).  Is there nothing that a click, a grant, and an curriculum cannot solve?    This is also how the field of “fatherhood” or “violence against women” is also turning out.  Get a grant and train the trainers, develop a software presence and run conferences.

    EXCERPT FROM THEIR BIO (on the Marriage Savers site) shows they do indeed have some medical offspring in the family:

    Media: Their work has attracted national media coverage,

     

     

    (YEP, see that “hand in the till” article, above)….

     

     

    most recently a profile of a Community Marriage Policy in suburban Portland Oregon on ABC World News with Charles Gibson on October 22, 2007. The Coral Ridge Hour broadcast an 11 minute segment about Marriage Savers on Father’s Day, 2005. The CBS Early Show broadcast a story June 2004 on Mike and Harriet mentoring their 50th couple. Focus on the Family interviewed them May 21, 2004. A Washington Post Magazine cover story Feb. 29, 2004 featured Mike and Harriet mentoring a Nigerian couple. They work has been reported on NBC Nightly News, ABC World News Tonight, and CBS “48 Hours”. He’s appeared on MS-NBC, Fox, BBC, CBC, Oprah, The O’Reilly Factor. TIME, Newsweek, U.S. News & World Report, The Wall Street Journal, USA Today and hundreds of local papers have reported on their work.

     

     

     

     

    Family: Mike and Harriet have been married 42 years and have three married sons and six grandchildren. Their sons are all achievers. Adam McManus hosts a daily radio talk show 3 hours a day in San Antonio, TX. John McManus was the staff director of the Ways & Means Health Subcommittee which added drug benefits to Medicare; he now runs The McManus Group, providing consulting and lobbying for the American Medical Association, various drug companies and equipment manufacturers. Tim McManus is CEO of a hospital in Gulfport, MS.

     

    Does kind of make the following list a little interesting, I think:

    Fiscal Year OPDIV Grantee Name City State Award Number Award Title CFDA Number CFDA Program Name Award Action Type Principal Investigator Sum of Actions
    2009 IHS SOUTH CENTRAL FOUNDATION ANCHORAGE AK D279400023 INJURY PREVENTION PART II 93284 Injury Prevention Program for American Indians and Alaskan Natives: Cooperative Agreements OTHER REVISION KELLY MCMANUS $- 18
    2009 NIH UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA-SAN FRANCISCO SAN FRANCISCO CA R01DA026065 RESOLVING MICRORNA TARGETS 93701 Trans-NIH Recovery Act Research Support NEW MICHAEL T MCMANUS $ 379,138
    2009 NIH UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA-SAN FRANCISCO SAN FRANCISCO CA R01GM080783 NEW FRONTIERS FOR SMALL RNA THERAPIES 93859 Pharmacology, Physiology, and Biological Chemistry Research NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION MICHAEL T MCMANUS $ 293,550
    2009 NIH UNIVERSITY OF TEXAS HEALTH SCIENCE CTR AT SAN ANTONIO SAN ANTONIO TX T32HL007446 PATHOBIOLOGY OF OCCLUSIVE VASCULAR DISEASE 93837 Heart and Vascular Diseases Research NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION LINDA M MCMANUS $ 368,737
    2009 SAMHSA ROCKWOOD SCHOOL DISTRICT R-6 EUREKA MO SP015642 ROCKWOOD R-VI SCHOOL DISTRICT 93276 Drug-Free Communities Support Program Grants NEW KENNETH D MCMANUS $ 124,999
    2008 ACF YOUTH & FAMILY SERVICES, INC SKOWHEGAN ME 90CY2239 BASIC CENTER 93623 Basic Center Grant NEW LORA WILFORD MCMANUS $ 15,476
    2008 CDC HARVARD UNIVERSITY, SCHOOL OF PUBLIC HEALTH BOSTON MA R36DD000365 SOCIAL DETERMINANTS FOR EARLY INTERVENTION PARTICIPATION AND EFFICACY 93061 Innovations in Applied Public Health Research NEW BETH M MCMANUS $ 29,157
    2008 FDA VA ST DEPARTMENT OF HEALTH RICHMOND VA R13FD003593 VIRGINIA FOOD PROTECTION TASK FORCE CONFERENCE 93103 Food and Drug Administration_Research NEW CATHERINE MCMANUS $ 5,000
    2008 NIH UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA-SAN FRANCISCO SAN FRANCISCO CA R01GM080783 NEW FRONTIERS FOR SMALL RNA THERAPIES 93859 Pharmacology, Physiology, and Biological Chemistry Research NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION MICHAEL T MCMANUS $ 293,075
    2008 NIH UNIVERSITY OF TEXAS HEALTH SCIENCE CTR AT SAN ANTONIO SAN ANTONIO TX T32HL007446 PATHOBIOLOGY OF OCCLUSIVE VASCULAR DISEASE 93837 Heart and Vascular Diseases Research NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION LINDA M MCMANUS $ 349,472
    2007 ACF HELP – New Mexico, Inc. ALBUQUERQUE NM 90EI0456 NEW MEXICO PROJECT TO BUILD ASSETS FOR RISING OUT OF POVERTY 93602 Assets for Independence Demonstration Program NEW RITA GARCIA-MCMANUS $ 1,000,000
    2007 NIH UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA-SAN FRANCISCO SAN FRANCISCO CA R01GM080783 NEW FRONTIERS FOR SMALL RNA THERAPIES 93859 Pharmacology, Physiology, and Biological Chemistry Research NEW MICHAEL T MCMANUS $ 292,125
    2007 NIH UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA-SAN FRANCISCO SAN FRANCISCO CA R03DA022201 THE EPIGENETICS OF SMALL RNAS IN THE MAMMALIAN BRAIN 93279 Drug Abuse and Addiction Research Programs NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION MICHAEL T MCMANUS $ 149,615
    2007 NIH UNIVERSITY OF TEXAS HEALTH SCIENCE CTR AT SAN ANTONIO SAN ANTONIO TX T32HL007446 PATHOBIOLOGY OF OCCLUSIVE VASCULAR DISEASE 93837 Heart and Vascular Diseases Research COMPETING CONTINUATION LINDA M MCMANUS $ 337,679
    2006 HRSA BLACK HEALTH COALITION OF WISCONSIN MILWAUKEE WI H49MC00061 ELIMINATING DESPARITIES 93926 Healthy Start Initiative ADMINISTRATIVE SUPPLEMENT ( + OR – ) (DISCRETIONARY OR BLOCK AWARDS) PATRICIA MCMANUS $ 0
    2006 HRSA BLACK HEALTH COALITION OF WISCONSIN MILWAUKEE WI H49MC00061 ELIMINATING DESPARITIES 93926 Healthy Start Initiative EXTENSION WITH OR WITHOUT FUNDS PATRICIA -. MCMANUS $ 150,000
    2006 HRSA BLACK HEALTH COALITION OF WISCONSIN MILWAUKEE WI H49MC00061 ELIMINATING DESPARITIES 93926 Healthy Start Initiative NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION PATRICIA MCMANUS $ 750,000
    2006 HRSA THOMAS JEFFERSON UNIVERSITY PHILADELPHIA PA D58HP05138 RESIDENCY TRAINING IN PRIMARY CARE 93884 Grants for Training in Primary Care Medicine and Dentistry NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION PATRICK R. MCMANUS MD $ 125,619
    2006 NIH UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA-SAN FRANCISCO SAN FRANCISCO CA R03DA022201 THE EPIGENETICS OF SMALL RNAS IN THE MAMMALIAN BRAIN 93279 Drug Abuse and Addiction Research Programs NEW MICHAEL T MCMANUS $ 153,583
    2005 ACF WOMEN OF COLOR AIDS COUNCIL, INC BOSTON MA 90IJ0181 COMPASSION CAPITAL FUND (CCF) TARGETED CAPACITY BUILDING (HOMELESS) 93009 Compassion Capital Fund NEW KAREN MCMANUS $ 50,000
    2005 HRSA BLACK HEALTH COALITION OF WISCONSIN MILWAUKEE WI H49MC00061 ELIMINATING DESPARITIES 93926 Healthy Start Initiative ADMINISTRATIVE SUPPLEMENT ( + OR – ) (DISCRETIONARY OR BLOCK AWARDS) PATRICIA MCMANUS $- 10,667
    2005 HRSA BLACK HEALTH COALITION OF WISCONSIN MILWAUKEE WI H49MC00061 ELIMINATING DESPARITIES 93926 Healthy Start Initiative COMPETING CONTINUATION PATRICIA MCMANUS $ 900,000
    2005 HRSA THOMAS JEFFERSON UNIVERSITY PHILADELPHIA PA D58HP05138 RESIDENCY TRAINING IN PRIMARY CARE 93884 Grants for Training in Primary Care Medicine and Dentistry NEW PATRICK R. MCMANUS $ 150,184
    2005 IHS SOUTH CENTRAL FOUNDATION ANCHORAGE AK D279400023 INJURY PREVENTION PART II 93284 Injury Prevention Program for American Indians and Alaskan Natives: Cooperative Agreements NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION KELLY MCMANUS $ 15,000
    2004 HRSA BLACK HEALTH COALITION OF WISCONSIN MILWAUKEE WI H49MC00061 ELIMINATING DESPARITIES 93926 Healthy Start Initiative NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION PATRICIA MCMANUS $ 814,374
    2004 IHS ANCHORAGE AK INJURY PREVENTION PART II NONE NEW KELLY MCMANUS
    2004 NIH SAN ANTONIO TX PATHOBIOLOGY OF OCCLUSIVE VASCULAR DISEASE 93837 NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION LINDA M MCMANUS $ 231,979
    2004 NIH UNIVERSITY OF TEXAS HEALTH SCIENCE CTR AT SAN ANTONIO SAN ANTONIO TX T32HL007446 PATHOBIOLOGY OF OCCLUSIVE VASCULAR DISEASE 93837 Heart and Vascular Diseases Research SUPPLEMENT FOR EXPANSION LINDA M MCMANUS $ 41,450
    2003 HRSA BLACK HEALTH COALITION OF WISCONSIN MILWAUKEE WI H49MC00061 ELIMINATING DESPARITIES 93926 Healthy Start Initiative NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION PATRICIA MCMANUS $ 751,000
    2003 HRSA BLACK HEALTH COALITION OF WISCONSIN MILWAUKEE WI H78MC00020 IMPROVING WOMENS HEALTH THROUGH SCREENING AND INTERVENTION FOR DEPRESSION DURING 93926 Healthy Start Initiative NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION PATRICIA MCMANUS $ 175,000
    2003 IHS SOUTH CENTRAL FOUNDATION ANCHORAGE AK H1HB100037 WELLNESS CAMP FOR ALASKA NATIVE CHILDREN 93933 Demonstration Projects for Indian Health NEW KELLY MCMANUS $ 60,000
    2003 NIH UNIVERSITY OF TEXAS HEALTH SCIENCE CTR AT SAN ANTONIO SAN ANTONIO TX T32HL007446 PATHOBIOLOGY OF OCCLUSIVE VASCULAR DISEASE 93837 Heart and Vascular Diseases Research NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION LINDA M MCMANUS $ 237,241
    2002 HRSA BLACK HEALTH COALITION OF WISCONSIN MILWAUKEE WI H49MC00061 ELIMINATING DESPARITIES 93926 Healthy Start Initiative ADMINISTRATIVE SUPPLEMENT ( + OR – ) (DISCRETIONARY OR BLOCK AWARDS) PATRICIA MCMANUS $ 225,000
    2002 HRSA BLACK HEALTH COALITION OF WISCONSIN MILWAUKEE WI H49MC00061 ELIMINATING DESPARITIES 93926 Healthy Start Initiative NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION PATRICIA MCMANUS $ 675,000
    2002 HRSA BLACK HEALTH COALITION OF WISCONSIN MILWAUKEE WI H78MC00020 IMPROVING WOMENS HEALTH THROUGH SCREENING AND INTERVENTION FOR DEPRESSION DURING 93926 Healthy Start Initiative NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION PATRICIA MCMANUS $ 175,000
    2002 NIH ANVIL INFORMATICS INC BURLINGTON MA R43CA094429 VERY HIGH DIMENSIONAL VISUAL MINING OF THE NCI DATASET 93393 Cancer Cause and Prevention Research NEW MICHAEL J MCMANUS $ 99,225
    2002 NIH ANVIL INFORMATICS INC BURLINGTON MA R43CA096179 CLUSTER COMPARISON METHODS & THE NCI EXPRESSION DATASET 93395 Cancer Treatment Research NEW MICHAEL J MCMANUS $ 98,438
    2002 NIH UNIVERSITY OF TEXAS HEALTH SCIENCE CTR AT SAN ANTONIO SAN ANTONIO TX T32HL007446 PATHOBIOLOGY OF OCCLUSIVE VASCULAR DISEASE 93837 Heart and Vascular Diseases Research NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION LINDA M MCMANUS $ 214,392
    2001 HRSA BLACK HEALTH COALITION OF WISCONSIN MILWAUKEE WI H49MC00061 ELIMINATING DESPARITIES 93926 Healthy Start Initiative NEW PATRICIA MCMANUS $ 900,000
    2001 HRSA BLACK HEALTH COALITION OF WISCONSIN MILWAUKEE WI H78MC00020 IMPROVING WOMENS HEALTH THROUGH SCREENING AND INTERVENTION FOR DEPRESSION DURING 93926 Healthy Start Initiative NEW PATRICIA MCMANUS $ 175,000
    2001 NIH SCRIPPS RESEARCH INSTITUTE LA JOLLA CA R29CA075238 TRANSFORMATION SPECIFIC SIGNALING MEDIATED BY VERBS 93393 Cancer Cause and Prevention Research NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION MICHAEL J MCMANUS $ 133,700
    2001 NIH UNIVERSITY OF TEXAS HEALTH SCIENCE CTR AT SAN ANTONIO SAN ANTONIO TX T32HL007446 PATHOBIOLOGY OF OCCLUSIVE VASCULAR DISEASE 93837 Heart and Vascular Diseases Research COMPETING CONTINUATION LINDA M MCMANUS $ 207,981
    2001 SAMHSA WOMEN OF COLOR AIDS COUNCIL, INC BOSTON MA SP08892 PREVENTION FOR AFRICAN AMERICAN & HISPANIC/LATINA WOMEN 93230 Consolidated Knowledge Development and Application (KD&A) Program NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION KAREN MCMANUS $ 249,000
    2000 CDC BLACK HEALTH COALITION OF WISCONSIN MILWAUKEE WI CCU518156 COMMUNITY COALITION DEVELOPMENT PROJECTS FOR AFRICAN AMERICAN COMMUNITIES 93939 HIV Prevention Activities_Non-Governmental Organization Based NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION PATRICIA MCMANUS, RN, PHD $ 185,000
    2000 HRSA BLACK HEALTH COALITION OF WISCONSIN MILWAUKEE WI H96MC00042 MILWAUKEE HEALTHY BEGINNINGS PROJECT 93926 Healthy Start Initiative ADMINISTRATIVE SUPPLEMENT ( + OR – ) (DISCRETIONARY OR BLOCK AWARDS) PATRICIA MCMANUS $ 65,900
    2000 HRSA BLACK HEALTH COALITION OF WISCONSIN MILWAUKEE WI H96MC00042 MILWAUKEE HEALTHY BEGINNINGS PROJECT 93926 Healthy Start Initiative NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION PATRICIA MCMANUS $ 569,292
    2000 NIH SCRIPPS RESEARCH INSTITUTE LA JOLLA CA R29CA075238 TRANSFORMATION SPECIFIC SIGNALING MEDIATED BY VERBS 93393 Cancer Cause and Prevention Research CHANGE OF GRANTEE / TRAINING INSTITUTION / AWARDING INSTITUTION MICHAEL J MCMANUS $ 128,560
    2000 NIH UNIVERSITY OF TEXAS HEALTH SCIENCE CTR AT SAN ANTONIO SAN ANTONIO TX T32HL007446 PATHOBIOLOGY OF OCCLUSIVE VASCULAR DISEASE 93837 Heart and Vascular Diseases Research NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION LINDA M MCMANUS $ 161,445
    2000 SAMHSA AL ST DEPARTMENT OF MENTAL HEALTH & MENTAL RETARDATION MONTGOMERY AL SM00115 CRISIS COUNSELING – HURRICANE GEORGES 93982 Mental Health Disaster Assistance and Emergency Mental Health ADMINISTRATIVE SUPPLEMENT ( + OR – ) (DISCRETIONARY OR BLOCK AWARDS) MCMANUS, BRIAN H. $ 2,093
    2000 SAMHSA AL ST DEPARTMENT OF MENTAL HEALTH & MENTAL RETARDATION MONTGOMERY AL SMX060001-00 PATH 93150 Projects for Assistance in Transition from Homelessness (PATH) COMPETING CONTINUATION BRIAN MCMANUS $ 300,000
    2000 SAMHSA WOMEN OF COLOR AIDS COUNCIL, INC BOSTON MA SP08892 PREVENTION FOR AFRICAN AMERICAN & HISPANIC/LATINA WOMEN 93230 Consolidated Knowledge Development and Application (KD&A) Program NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION MCMANUS, KAREN $ 249,000
    1999 CDC BLACK HEALTH COALITION OF WISCONSIN MILWAUKEE WI CCU518156 COMMUNITY COALITION DEVELOPMENT PROJECTS FOR AFRICAN AMERICAN COMMUNITIES 93939 HIV Prevention Activities_Non-Governmental Organization Based NEW PATRICIA MCMANUS, RN, PHD $ 185,000
    1999 HRSA BLACK HEALTH COALITION OF WISCONSIN MILWAUKEE WI H96MC00042 MILWAUKEE HEALTHY BEGINNINGS PROJECT 93926 Healthy Start Initiative NEW PATRICIA MCMANUS $ 417,681
    1999 HRSA BLACK HEALTH COALITION OF WISCONSIN MILWAUKEE WI H96MC00042 MILWAUKEE HEALTHY BEGINNINGS PROJECT 93926 Healthy Start Initiative NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION PATRICIA MCMANUS $ 807,920
    1999 HRSA BLACK HEALTH COALITION OF WISCONSIN MILWAUKEE WI U93MC00029 MILWAUKEE HEALTHY BEGINNINGS PROJECT 93926 Healthy Start Initiative ADMINISTRATIVE SUPPLEMENT ( + OR – ) (DISCRETIONARY OR BLOCK AWARDS) PATRICIA MCMANUS $ 34,014
    1999 NIH MAYO CLINIC ROCHESTER ROCHESTER MN R29CA075238 TRANSFORMATION SPECIFIC SIGNALING MEDIATED BY VERBS 93393 Cancer Cause and Prevention Research NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION MICHAEL J MCMANUS $ 99,771
    1999 NIH UNIVERSITY OF TEXAS HEALTH SCIENCE CTR AT SAN ANTONIO SAN ANTONIO TX T32HL007446 PATHOBIOLOGY OF OCCLUSIVE VASCULAR DISEASE 93837 Heart and Vascular Diseases Research NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION LINDA M MCMANUS $ 173,857
    1999 SAMHSA AL ST DEPARTMENT OF MENTAL HEALTH & MENTAL RETARDATION MONTGOMERY AL SM00115 CRISIS COUNSELING – HURRICANE GEORGES 93982 Mental Health Disaster Assistance and Emergency Mental Health NEW MCMANUS, BRIAN H. $ 44,927
    1999 SAMHSA WOMEN OF COLOR AIDS COUNCIL, INC BOSTON MA SP08892 PREVENTION FOR AFRICAN AMERICAN & HISPANIC/LATINA WOMEN 93230 Consolidated Knowledge Development and Application (KD&A) Program NEW MCMANUS, KAREN $ 249,000
    1998 HRSA BLACK HEALTH COALITION OF WISCONSIN MILWAUKEE WI 1H96MC0002801 MILWAUKEE HEALTHY BEGINNINGS PROJECT 93926 Healthy Start Initiative NEW PATRICIA MCMANUS $ 417,681
    1998 HRSA BLACK HEALTH COALITION OF WISCONSIN MILWAUKEE WI 5U93MC0002902 MILWAUKEE HEALTHY BEGINNINGS PROJECT 93926 Healthy Start Initiative NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION PATRICIA MCMANUS $ 819,420
    1998 HRSA BLACK HEALTH COALITION OF WISCONSIN MILWAUKEE WI H96MC00028 MILWAUKEE HEALTHY BEGINNINGS PROJECT 93926 Healthy Start Initiative NEW PATRICIA MCMANUS $ 417,681
    1998 HRSA BLACK HEALTH COALITION OF WISCONSIN MILWAUKEE WI H96MC00042 MILWAUKEE HEALTHY BEGINNINGS PROJECT 93926 Healthy Start Initiative NEW PATRICIA MCMANUS $ 417,681
    1998 NIH MAYO CLINIC ROCHESTER ROCHESTER MN R29CA075238 TRANSFORMATION SPECIFIC SIGNALING MEDIATED BY VERBS 93393 Cancer Cause and Prevention Research NON-COMPETING CONTINUATION MICHAEL J MCMANUS $ 95,934

    A little more on Maggie (Gallagher):

    http://www.nafcj.net/

    “In 2002, syndicated columnist Maggie Gallagher repeatedly defended President Bush’s push for a $300 million initiative encouraging marriage as a way of strengthening families.
    […]

    “But Gallagher failed to mention that she had a $21,500 contract with the Department of Health and Human Services to help promote the president’s proposal. Her work under the contract, which ran from January through October 2002, included drafting a magazine article for the HHS official overseeing the initiative, writing brochures for the program and conducting a briefing for department officials.

    From “SourceWatch” from the “Center for Media and Democracy.”

    Maggie Gallagher is the president of the Washington DC-based Institute for Marriage and Public Policy, editor of MarriageDebate.com, a syndicated columnist, author, and frequent television commentator. She also serves as president of the National Organization for Marriage[1] Her articles on marriage policy have appeared in the New York TimesWall Street Journal and Weekly Standard[1] She’s a former editor at the National Review, former columnist at New York Newsday and a founding senior editor at the Manhattan Institute‘s City Journal[2]

    Gallagher also receieved a $20,000 Justice Department grant for a writing a report titled “Can Government Strengthen Marriage?” that was published by the private, non-profit National Fatherhood IntiativeWade Horn, the Health and Human Services Department’s assistant secretary for children and families who defended Gallagher’s contracts as “not unusual,” founded the National Fatherhood Initiative before entering government. [4]

    INTERESTING “CO-INCIDENCE,” that.  1995, NFI,  and then here’s Wade Horn from within government pushing through the initiative (not without some outside help).

    These comments seem to contrast with statements that Gallager herself made in 1997, when she spoke at a conference organized by the Committee of Concerned Journalists at Columbia University Graduate School of Journalism. “The more a journalist views himself as a participant in the events and has a loyalty to sources, the less able he or she is to really consider himself a journalist,” she told the conference. “… [And as an opinion journalist, which is to say you are emotionally invested in the outcome of the events] it becomes [even more] important … to be open with the reader, to make it clear to the audience what your views are and what your biases are.”[6]

    The National Organization for Marriage

    The National Organization for Marriage (NOM) is a nonprofit organization with a mission to protect marriage and the faith communities that sustain it.

     

    Founded in 2007 in response to the growing need for an organized opposition to same-sex marriage in state legislatures, NOM serves as a national resource for marriage-related initiatives at the state and local level. For decades, pro-family organizations have educated the public about the importance of marriage and the family, but have lacked the organized, national presence needed to impact state and local politics in a coordinated and sustained fashion. NOM seeks to fill that void, organizing as a 501(c)(4) nonprofit organization, giving it the flexibility to lobby and support marriage initiatives across the nation.

    aggie Gallagher is President of the Institute for Marriage and Public Policy and a co-author of The Case for Marriage. Comments for Maggie? Email

     

    Institute for Marriage and Public Policy.

     

    File under:

    “The $21,000 that Maggie Forgot.”

    Michael McManus, a marriage advocate whose syndicated column, “Ethics & Religion,” appears in 50 newspapers, was hired as a subcontractor by the Department of Health and Human Services to foster a Bush-approved marriage initiative. McManus championed the plan in his columns without disclosing to readers he was being paid to help it succeed.

    Responding to the latest revelation, Dr. Wade Horn, assistant secretary for children and families {{Translation:  “ACF” I believe}} at HHS, announced Thursday that HHS would institute a new policy that forbids the agency from hiring any outside expert or consultant who has any working affiliation with the media. “I needed to draw this bright line,” Horn tells Salon. “The policy is being implemented and we’re moving forward.”

    Horn’s move came on the heels of Wednesday’s report in the Washington Post that HHS had paid syndicated columnist and marriage advocate Maggie Gallagher $21,000 to write brochures and essays and to brief government employees on the president’s marriage initiative. Gallagher later wrote in her column that she would have revealed the $21,000 payment to readers had she recalled receiving it.

     

    I’d probably look up Grant #90EI0456, above (in purple).

    Title New Mexico Project to Build Assets for Rising Out of Poverty
    Award Number 90EI0456
    Project Start/End /
    Abstract New Mexico Project to Build Assets for Rising Out of Poverty
    Thesaurus Social Service; Social; Service; at risk; Assets; Independence; Demonstration; Community; Communities; AFI
    PI Name/Title Rita Garcia-McManus  NONE
    PI eMail NONE
    Institution
    Department NONE
    Fiscal Year 2007
    ICD {{RIGHT HERE IS WHERE ONE EXPECTS A LITTLE DESCRIPTION}}
    IRG NONE

    (anything the ACF chooses to throw $1,000,000 at in the year 2007 might be worth a 2nd look).

    A Brief History

    The HELP – New Mexico, Inc. (HELP-NM) was created and incorporated as Home Education Livelihood Program, Inc. in 1965 by the interdenominational New Mexico Council of Churches and its successor, the New Mexico Conference of Churches and Church Women United. The founders included pastors, ranchers, farmworkers, housewives, businessmen, and government workers. The HELP-NM organization is governed by 18 Board of Directors representing sectors including public, business, low income, native American, parents, and other community members.

     

    ver the past 42 years, HELP-New Mexico, Inc. (HELP-NM), has provided services to over 816,000 individuals and families including migrant families, self-employed farmers and ranchers, low-income families, abused and neglected children, senior citizens, people with disabilities, and disadvantaged youth. These services have included adult education, job training, early childhood development and education, youth development and care, self-help housing construction, rural health clinics, land development, job placement, literacy training, affordable housing, nutritious meals, and family counseling.

     

     

    HELP – New Mexico

    exists to create self-sufficiency and provide economic opportunities to strengthen families throughout New Mexico.

     

    Initially organized as the “Bienvenidos (Welcome) Coalition”, in October 2007, HELP-NM, was awarded a grant from the Administration for Children and Families for a Compassion Capital Fund project. The goal is to support faith-based and community-based non-profit organizations in New Mexico in order to increase their capacity and their efforts to work with families and individuals in the providing community based social services. Target organizations provide social services to poor and low-income individuals and families, particularly families in poverty; prisoners re-entering the community; the children and families of prisoners; the homeless; elderly persons in need; families in transition from welfare to work; people in need of rehabilitation such as substance abuse; couples seeking information and support for forming and maintaining healthy marriages; and at risk youth. Included in  HELP-NM CCF project are a wide range of vulnerable populations  needing rehabilitation, including victims of domestic violence, the mentally ill, and victims of human trafficking. If you want to learn more about this program contact Gracie Gonzalez at 505-766-4921 or via e-mail atGracie@helpnm.com.

     

    HELP-NM CCF includes a funding plan in which $250,000 of sub-awards are dispersed to applicant organizations, based upon developmental level of the organization. Training and workshops sessions are conducted statewide through the year. Consultants are then engaged to provide technical assistance to both sub-awardees and other eligible non-profit community organizations. For more information regarding the trainings & technical assistance please contact Gracie Gonzalez at 505-766-4921 or via e-mail atGracie@helpnm.com

    \

    (This seems one of the better-explained sites, at least as to how the structure works).

    A quick search of the TAGGS database shows that Help-Inc. 1995-2009 has received:

    Total of all awards: $ 33,415,378

    (MOST of it is Head Start, which appears to be a going concern.)

    $8million 2007-2009 per USASPENDING.GOV, probably not too accurate

    WELL,  the Garridos were married.  How healthy was that?  In fact, as far as I know (and even in separate cellblocks) they still are.  Or course clearly, he wasn’t very “abstinent” before, or during marriage.

    Perhaps if the funds weren’t being funneled to telling people how to keep it zipped, the authorities would’ve had the intent and resources to find out what Mr. Garrido was keeping captive in his own back yard.

    Since that article was sprung, we’ve had (in the news) a Yale graduate student (female) found dead in the wall of her lab, a few days before marriage.  She was going to get married.  Sounded like a dangerous proposition from her perspective.

     

    Maggie Gallagher is from Yale (’82).

     

    And recently we’ve had a young (about 28) married woman, with three children, from Hamilton, Ohio, end up in more than one garbage bag, after the father (and suspect) thereafter apparently took his 3 young kids to the store to get garbage bags and bleach.

     

    She was MARRIED.  OK, dudes?

    I too was married.  You know what it wasn’t? Healthy.  Partly because there are people on this earth who take some of these doctrines a little bit too much to heart, and get to expressing it with their hands, and weapons, too.

    Anyhow, I just wanted to give a little flavor of the origins of a few initiatives.  In the pocketbook plus a gleam in the eye of the Bush Administration and others who worked HHS during this time.


    Jaycee Dugard wasn’t married, how could she be?  Who would conduct the ceremony?  Her married kidnapper raper? But I heard her traumatized kids were still clean, relatively healthy and I haven’t read anything yet about academically backward.  She was a single mother.  According to statistics, her kids should be worse off.  They WERE, but it was at the hands of a firmly married (from prison, initially) couple.  So, personally, I think that I could tell where someone to shove this dogma that is being shoved off on the rest of us.

     

    During my own marriage I had enough being shoved, ordered, slapped around, characterized and “trained” to last the nine lives of a circus cat.  Quite frankly, enough is enough.  Theoretically, I”m still in favor of both abstinence and marriage, however when PUSH comes to SHOVE, I’m MORE in favor of the Bill of Rights.

     

    Part of Garrido’s credibility was that he had a woman, I’m guessing.  This was a factor in the attacks on me as a single mother for maintaining the concept that as a single mother WITHOUT an attacker, I was indeed better off (and our children) that way, than before, and that the removal of the violent person from our household was sufficient for now, thank you.  it was made abundantly clear, from some West Coast liberals, that a woman being beaten in the home was preferable to us having to worry about a woman without a man, any quality man, in the home, when children were involved.  This overly “rigid” world view, quite frankly well, _____s. And isn’t a great value to communicate to the next generation; gender matters more than character.

     

    And look at the characters that were promoting it!

    They were bribed to get the thing off the ground!

     

     


    While you were sleeping: How Congress got into the Family Law business…

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    2016 BLOGGER UPDATE on this December 5, 2009 post:

    In an April 3, 2016 post, I searched for documentation on the history of the Access and Visitation grants back in the 1980s, as part of a time-line of the domestic violence industry. These grants are STILL discussed so infrequently, in general, that my own 12/5/2009 “While you were sleeping” post here (as quoted by “Fearless Fathers” 3 days later) was one of the search results.

    That post title and the two short links on it posted as far back as December 2009 (within one year of when I began blogging) and found when I didn’t even have access to a normal laptop, almost “says it all.”

    I briefly cleaned up formatting in this older (now over five years old) post, added borders and some background color plus lines around quotes (which I didn’t know how to do at the time), and below that will copy, in different background-color, the text on the same subject matter from 2016 post, “Can You Tell the “Tells” of the DV (so-called) Cartel? It’s Show-and-Tell Time.” That was my 15th post of 2016 — see the Table of Contents here.


    It took me longer than a few months (a few years) to put together, from the timeline of major domestic violence prevention groups, that most of them probably knew all along about the influence of the HHS-sponsored (at the time, HEW-sponsored, as HHS only came into being 1990, but some key DV groups were formed in 1980 (“Domestic Abuse Intervention Programs” in Duluth, MN), 1989 (“Futures without Violence”), or earlier) strategically positioned ACCESS and VISITATION GRANTS  of first $4M (1988 dollars) then $10M (1996 dollars)/year and MARRIAGE/FATHERHOOD, about 15 times larger annual appropriations than the A/V.

    These domestic violence nonprofits at the leadership level did not inform their “clients,” typically battered and abused women with or without children, about the Access and Visitation grants those clients who were MOTHERS would be up against, by virtue of their not being fathers, and by virtue, as it applied, of their having custody of the children and there even being a (male) “Noncustodial” parent. It was social public welfare policy!

    This old post stands as a simple testimony that IF certain information is available, other parts of major systems start to make sense, and if it is not, they simply do not. Therefore, in my opinion, one of the larger “crimes” in responding to domestic violence, and evidence itself of an abusive approach to the target population being helped, is to withhold timely information which, if NOT withheld, might lead to a different strategic decision on the part of that individual parent. For example, SOME individual parents may decide whether or not to go up against the largest grant-making federal agency around in seeking to protect their children and do it by way of the family courts.

    I found this on-line yesterday [12/4/2009], it appears to date to JUNE 2000.

    Congressional Research Service

    Report 97-590

    CHILD SUPPORT ENFORCEMENT AND VISITATION: SHOULD THERE BE A FEDERAL CONNECTION?

    Carmen D. Solomon-Fears, Education and Public Welfare Division

    Updated June 20, 2000


    Found at this link: http://stuff.mit.edu/afs/sipb/contrib/wikileaks-crs/wikileaks-crs-reports/97-590.pdf

    Abstract.

    From time to time, the issue arises of whether the federal Child Support Enforcement (CSE)program should be actively involved in enforcing visitation rights. Both federal and state policymakers agree that denial of visitation rights should not be considered a reason for stopping child support payments.

    AVAILABLE HERE — and I’m going to add it to my bloglinks.  It’s ONLY 7 pages long, and provides a summary background of HOW the Federal Government got to be “in the family way.”  The rationale was TANF/Welfare.  That was the chink in the door.

    The question arises, in my mind at least — what major institutions and practices in this nation are creating the welfare population to start with?  The 2 largest areas of expenditure in the government are two agencies:  1.  Health and Human Service, and 2.  Education.  The others, are smaller.  Go to at least usaspending.gov and look at the pie chart, and take a look.  Why are the courts and the child support agencies in the business of education, at which the educational system is already failing, clearly?

     

    http://stuff.mit.edu/afs/sipb/contrib/wikileaks-crs/wikileaks-crs-reports/97-590.pdf

    Recommended reading for the uninitiated, for example:

    Is the Federal Government Becoming Too Intrusive in Family Law Policy?

    [[Ya-THINK?  Just perhaps MAYBE?  This shows the rationale…]]

     

    Congress does not have general authority to pass laws dealing with family law issues, unless there is a connection or “nexus” between such legislation and one of the areas in which it is authorized to act. In the case of the CSE program, the federal nexus is the …

    H.R. 3073, the Fathers Count Act of 1999, would provide $140 million in grants over four years to public and private entities to achieve three purposes: (1) promote marriage, (2) promote successful parenting, and (3) help noncustodial parent improve their economic status. H.R. 3073 was passed by the House on November 10, 1999, but has not been acted on by the Senate.
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    Rocky Mountain High– if you’re in one of these professions…

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    or should I say, Rocky Mountain HYbrid?  Sure looks like one here….

    A.k.a.  Carpet Bagging on Divorce Distress, at high altitudes…

    I just had an odd question:  Why is  SF’s famous, and well-established Family Violence Prevention Fund, a pace-setter and leader in the field of violence preVENtion conferences and training, promoting conferences like this?

    I mean, I just got on “endabuse.org” and searched for “family law,” to see if they actually address some of the rampant troubles with the family law system.  After all, they are a FAMILY violence prevention fund….

    Here are links on top right, first page”:

    Do you see anything about preventing violence against WOMEN?  In fact, women show up, if they’re immigrants.  A search of “fathers” versus a search of “mothers” on this site pull up entirely different stats — you should try it some time.

     This came up on page 1 of search results, only the 4th item:

    clipped from Google – 11/2009

    The Association of Family and Conciliation Courts 46th annual conference will be held at the Sheraton New Orleans and will examine how family law research, practices and processes have evolved.**   It will feature 70 workshops, including three-hour advanced sessions, three plenary sessions and a choice of six daylong pre-conference institutes.
    Sessions will address challenges to conventional child custody wisdom including assertions about 50/50 parenting, the child’s role in the process, the resiliency of children after divorce, the changing role of court systems in resolving family disputes, and more. For more information, click here.  

    **:have evolved.”  Wake up.  Want to know how?  Look at AFCC’s “About us” or history page — this was not accident, it was intentional transformation, and “how” they evolved was particularly through conferences such as the AFCC puts on, policies which the FVPF has now more overtly (i’m not sure for how long they were ever truly independent) bought into….

    I DID “click here,” which brought me not to New Orleans, but to Denver.  At which point, this post was conceived and “evolved” — we deserve to know that the organization called “endabuse” is advertising for, and sponsoring conferences for, the organization that is promoting doctrines specifically originated to cover up domestic VIOLENCE (not “abuse”), Child Abuse (is the term, although it does violence to children), and incest, etc. . . .   To cover up criminal behavior and change it into something else, linguistically.

    / / / / /

    Let me clarify “AFCC”, in case you’re under 20, IN one of these professions, and haven’t been a parent involved in divorce:  Custody Switches Happen.  HOW do they happen?  When something is confronted by one parent, or reported by a children, generally speaking.   WHY does this occur?  Well, a variety of reasons, but generally in retaliation for reporting.  (From what I can see).  I mean, what’s the common (?) or $$-and-cents for pulling a sole-custody switch midway through a growing child’s life?     It’s  $$ and sense from a certain perspective…  The “best interests” of the child is not as common sense as we might wish to think (see my blog on slavery & domestic violence, a recent one).

    But I’m blabbing here:  AFCC, per Liz Richards of NAFCJ.net, and I have to agree after my studies, at least of grants patterns and some of the printed materials, not to mention experiences:

    This and other factors show that the fathers rights movement was a creation of a ring [of] judges who dominate the family court system and public policy  in many states.  These judges are not only hearing a large percentage of domestic litigation, they are also writing the state laws covering custody, divorce and child support.  In addition they influence HHS-ACF agency which controls most of the grant funds going to the state level agencies and courts. Their people are getting the grants and using for the fathers rights cases. 

    READ ABOUT THESE GROUPS TO COMPREHEND THE EXTENT OF THIS COLLUSION 
    AFCC: Association of Family and Conciliation Courts   
    AFCC is the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts – an interdisciplinary and international association of professionals dedicated to the resolution of family conflict.” . . . .

    The AFCC claims their focus is on training judges, custody evaluators and mediators about custody and divorce issues. But in reality they are a father focused organization and promoting alienation theories to explain away family violence by men. In reality they act as a “clearinghouse” for organized case rigging.  They hold conferences about parental alienation but never mention the many professional experts who have condemned it [[using this PAS to retaliate against those reporting abuse, including sometimes sexual abuse of minors]]as harmful to children or the link to incest promoter Richard Gardner.  Their  scheme involves “recruiting” male litigants through fathers groups and federal HHS programs managed by the local child support agencies for program “services” which are ostensibly for helping non-custodial fathers get their visitation rights so they would have less incentive to default on child support obligations.

      

    The LEGAL disincentive for defaulting on child support obligations is a contempt of a court order action.  There was no problem in using this against the protective mother in Oconto Wisconsin, recently, so I know the judges “understand” the concept.  But when a father is involved, somehow we need to give them “incentive” to care about their children’s welfare by helping “bribe” (you give me this, I may give you that, perhaps) them to carry this out in the form of stepping up to that child support plate.  That alone is suspect to me, as well as many other aspects of the child support system.. . . . . Women are supposed to care, men have to be bribed to?
    ALSO, Is that what any type of courts are FOR?  To resolve family conflict?  I thought that’s what counseling and therapy was for.  Sounds like we have a confusion of purposes somewhere (and should throw out the Constitution as irrelevant, as well as laws).  ANYHOW, here they are:

    Dedicated to improving the lives of children and families

     Exhibit and advertise at AFCC
    47Th Annual Conference
    June 2-5, 2010
    Denver, Colorado
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       ANYHOW 
     
     

     
     
     
     

    ‘Traversing the Trail of Alienation:  Mountains of Emotion, Mile High Conflict

     

     …AFCC’s Annual Conference is the premiere event for family law, mental health and dispute resolution professionals.  AFCC’s 47th Annual Conference will bring together between 800-1000 judges, lawyers, mediators, social workers, psychologists, parenting coordinators, parent educators and others.

     

    I’d like to pause here for a brief prayer:  “Lord, deliver us from all do-gooders, parent educators, and unsolicited profiteering helpers that may cross my life, or my children’s this day, in Jesus name, Amen.”      (I’d rather SEE a sermon than attend a parenting seminar any day.  This is parenting: you get your kids SAFE, FIRST, and teach them right from wrong based on behavior, character — not family function.  You do not assault & batter yourself, and you protect them from those who do, to the best of your ability, and empathize at least when you can’t.  How many of those parenting educators have actually GONE through what family law system has put us through, and after DV, too in many cases? Moreover, I’m not paid for being a mother.  In some contexts, doing this can be criminalized as resulting in family “conflict,” i.e., taking a stand somwhere along the line!)

     

    The exhibitor forum is centrally located in a high traffic area near conference beverage breaks and is designed to maximize visibility of exhibitors. Exhibitors receive admission to all conference sessions, meal functions and networking opportunities, including AFCC’s famous Hospitality Suite.

    Don’t miss this great opportunity to build your business with AFCC

     

    Join AFCC for a look at innovations and interventions for addressing our most difficult

    work. This conference will build on a special issue of

    guest edited by Dr. Barbara Fidler and Professor Nicholas Bala. The program and journal will examine the latest interventions

    designed to address family conflict involving allegations of alienation, featuring unique perspectives from

    judges, lawyers, mental health and dispute resolution professionals.

    Family Court Review on alienation, forthcoming in January 2010,

    FVPF should not be promoting this!  Why are they?  Oh– I forgot to tell you:

     

     

    Fiscal Year OPDIV Grantee Name City Award Title CFDA Program Name Principal Investigator Sum of Actions
    2009  ACF  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION FUND  SAN FRANCISCO  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION & SERVICES  Family Violence Prevention and Services/Grants for Battered Women’s Shelters: Discretionary Grants  ESTA SOLER  $- 1 
    2009  ACF  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION FUND  SAN FRANCISCO  SPECIAL ISSUE RESOURCE CENTERS FOR INFORMATION AND TECHNICAL ASSISTANCE  Family Violence Prevention and Services/Grants for Battered Women’s Shelters: Discretionary Grants  DEBBIE LEE  $ 1,353,812 
    2009  DHHS/OS  Family Violence Prevention Fund  SAN FRANCISCO  FY09 HEALTH CARE PROVIDER RESPONSE TO VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN – EDUCATION, TRAINING AND TECHNICAL ASSISTANCE PROGRAM  Advancing System Improvements to Support Targets for Healthy People 2010 (ASIST2010)  LISA JAMES  $ 31,000 
    2008  ACF  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION FUND  SAN FRANCISCO  SPECIAL ISSUE RESOURCE CENTERS FOR INFORMATION AND TECHNICAL ASSISTANCE  Family Violence Prevention and Services/Grants for Battered Women’s Shelters: Discretionary Grants  DEBBIE LEE  $ 1,323,812 
    2007  ACF  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION FUND  SAN FRANCISCO  SPECIAL ISSUE RESOURCE CENTERS FOR INFORMATION AND TECHNICAL ASSISTANCE  Family Violence Prevention and Services/Grants for Battered Women’s Shelters: Discretionary Grants  DEBBIE LEE  $ 1,394,127 
    2006  ACF  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION FUND  SAN FRANCISCO  SPECIAL ISSUE RESOURCE CENTERS FOR INFORMATION AND TECHNICAL ASSISTANCE  Family Violence Prevention and Services/Grants for Battered Women’s Shelters: Discretionary Grants  DEBBIE LEE  $ 1,145,872 
    2005  ACF  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION FUND  SAN FRANCISCO  CHILD ABUSE AND NEGLECT  Child Abuse and Neglect Discretionary Activities  ESTA SOLER  $ 496,000 
    2005  ACF  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION FUND  SAN FRANCISCO  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION & SERVICES  Family Violence Prevention and Services/Grants for Battered Women’s Shelters: Discretionary Grants  ESTA SOLER  $ 1,240,689 
    2004  ACF  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION FUND  SAN FRANCISCO  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION & SERVICES  Family Violence Prevention and Services/Grants for Battered Women’s Shelters: Discretionary Grants  ESTA SOLER  $ 1,215,689 
    2003  ACF  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION FUND  SAN FRANCISCO  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION & SERVICES  Family Violence Prevention and Services/Grants for Battered Women’s Shelters: Discretionary Grants  ESTA SOLER  $ 1,133,236 
    2003  CDC  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION FUND  SAN FRANCISCO  PUBLIC HEALTH CONFERENCE SUPPORT COOPERATIVE AGREEMENT  Centers for Disease Control and Prevention_Investigations and Technical Assistance  ESTA SOLER, PRESIDENT  $ 102,186 
    2002  ACF  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION FUND  SAN FRANCISCO  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION & SERVICES  Family Violence Prevention and Services/Grants for Battered Women’s Shelters: Discretionary Grants  ESTA SOLER  $ 1,113,796 
    2001  ACF  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION FUND  SAN FRANCISCO  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION & SERVICES  Family Violence Prevention and Services/Grants for Battered Women’s Shelters: Discretionary Grants  ESTA SOLER  $ 958,542 
    2000  ACF  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION FUND  SAN FRANCISCO  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION & SERVICES – SPECIAL ISSUE RESOURCE CENTER  Family Violence Prevention and Services/Grants for Battered Women’s Shelters: Discretionary Grants  ESTA SOLER  $ 804,542 
    1999  ACF  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION FUND  SAN FRANCISCO  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION & SERVICES – SPECIAL ISSUE RESOURCE CENTER  Family Violence Prevention and Services/Grants for Battered Women’s Shelters: Discretionary Grants  ESTA SOLER  $ 698,710 
    1998  ACF  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION FUND  SAN FRANCISCO  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION & SERVICES  Family Violence Prevention and Services/Grants for Battered Women’s Shelters: Discretionary Grants  ESTA SOLER  $ 50,000 
    1998  ACF  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION FUND  SAN FRANCISCO  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION & SERVICES – SPECIAL ISSUE RESOURCE CENTER  Family Violence Prevention and Services/Grants for Battered Women’s Shelters: Discretionary Grants  ESTA SOLER  $ 678,710 
    1998  ACF  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION FUND  SAN FRANCISCO  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION SERVICES  Family Violence Prevention and Services/Grants for Battered Women’s Shelters: Discretionary Grants  LRNI MARIN  $ 50,000 
    1997  ACF  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION FUND  SAN FRANCISCO  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION & SERVICES – SPECIAL ISSUE RESOURCE CENTER  Family Violence Prevention and Services/Grants for Battered Women’s Shelters: Discretionary Grants  ESTA SOLER  $ 637,604 
    1997  ACF  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION FUND  SAN FRANCISCO  P.A. FV-03-93 – DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: HEALTH CARE & ACCESS: SIRC  Family Violence Prevention and Services/Grants for Battered Women’s Shelters: Discretionary Grants  JANET NUDELMAN  $- 9,549 
    1995  ACF  FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION FUND  SAN FRANCISCO  P.A. FV-03-93 – DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: HEALTH CARE & ACCESS: SIRC  Family Violence Prevention and Services/Grants for Battered Women’s Shelters: Grants to States and Indian Tribes 

     

     

    JANET NUDELMAN  $ 451,525 

    Do you see the word “discretionary” in the “grants to shelters” ??label?  Really, it’s about conferences and training, not actually STOPPING violence.  For another, perhaps, because they can:  I mean — this is 2009, alone.

    Recipient Name State Federal Funding (for this search) DUNS Number
    FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION FUND   California $10,825,813 618375687 

    Funding is going GREAT for THIS nonprofit:

    Assistance to Recipient(s) “family violence prevention fund”
    (FY 2000-2010)

    Federal dollars: $33,745,685
    Total number of recipients: 1
    Total number of transactions: 67

    Look at which branches are funding it now — the best of both worlds, from HHS and DOJ both.  One is promoting fatherhood through federal grants, another is spouting out millions (and that’s literally) to organizations like this, and others, to “train” judges how to recognize domestic violence (clue:  look in the law, look at the facts, look at the bleeding, look at the casualties) and be good and address it, supposedly. 

    Top 5 Agencies Providing Assistance

     DOJ – Office of Justice Programs $18,464,457
     HHS – Secy. of Health and Human Services $11,107,290
     HHS – Administration for Children and Families $4,071,752
     HHS – Centers for Disease Control and Prevention $102,186

    HERE”s the CALIFORNIA chapter of AFCC, transforming the words “clear and present danger” (lifted DIRECTLY from the legislature’s own definition of a spousal batterer) into a budget crisis — which the same group has contributed to!

    2010 Annual AFCC-CS Conference

    Whose children ARE they now?  Are they your subject matter or the progeny of two parents?  When you see a kid, do you see a $$ sign for your profession?

    Apparently so, and government grants to ENDABUSE.org going to promote AFCC — a membership charging organization — for professionals to hawk their wares, while too many parents are UNaware of it.

    Which I hope to stop, obviously!

    That’s what I call Carpetbagging, no matter what the altitude.

    Would like to analyze a bit more, but time and technical limitations prevent.  Check this out yourself….

     

    Give us your huddled masses, your underage daughters: Oconto Co Wisconsin locks up Lorraine, . . .

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    Earlier, I (and colleagues — see those buttons on my blogroll!) posted  on the 30-plus individuals involved in ONE mother reporting sexual molestation (and more) of her little girl in Wisconsin,  after CPS workers in 2 counties confirmed it. 

    As reported Oct. 17th (DV awareness month, much?) on another blog (calling her a “teen” daughter was inaccurate.  Though the abuse started earlier, my understanding is, she is 11).  You should click on this link also — someone’s comment (wife of a police officer) is relating another account.

    Wisconsin Mom Lorraine Tipton (Oconto County) is under fire because her teen daughter refuses to go on visitation with her abuser father, who makes her sleep on the floor and drives with her drunk in the car.  The father, Craig Hensberger, managed to convince the father’s rights judge, Judge David Miron, in power there, to threaten Lorraine with jail if her daughter does not go.  Her daughter was in the emergency room this past Thursday night, sick and frantic, and is currently home with her mom, medicated and scared.  The abuser’s mommy has not picked her up as she threatened to do.  So Lorraine faces jail on Monday.  Please say a prayer for her. 

    Here’s a StopFamilyViolence release on it at “RandiJames.com”  File it under “a Thanksgiving to remember…”  I guess…

    Daughter Won’t Visit Father? Jail Mommy!

    FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
    November 19, 2009

    Contact:
    Irene Weiser
    Stop Family Violence
    iw@stopfamilyviolence.org

    WHY IS THIS MOTHER IN JAIL?

    (Oconto Falls, WI) Today an Oconto County family court judge sentenced a mother to jail because she was unable to force her daughter to court mandated visitation with her abusive father. The daughter will be sent to foster care if she refuses to live with her father while the mother serves her sentence.
    Circuit Judge David Miron sentenced Lorraine Tipton to 30 days in county jail for contempt of court, for her failure to follow the custody order requiring her daughter to live every other week with her father, Craig Hensberger.

     

    NOTE:  Anyone see this work in reverse, father jailed for refusing visitation to mother?  If so, let me know — it’s my situation.  I miss my (daughters) too!  And if I file for a contempt (further upsetting someone) knowing the courts or enforcement will do nothing, leaving an angry male on the loose.  Same deal with “certifiably insane restraining orders.”  But there’s not a single qualm about restraining protective mothers.  Fork them little girls over, we want a fresh supply of young flesh, plus that adrenaline rush that comes from dominating a woman,  for those who feel entitled, or have become addicted to this need.

    These are country-wide, generational nightmares.  When’s the wakeup call?  What will it take to stop it?

     

    She’s terrified of going; she has night terrors and severe anxiety” says Tipton, who admits her daughter hasn’t visited with her father since August.
    “I thought the court was supposed to look out for the best interests of the child, not the best interest of the father,” Tipton continued. “I thought once I got out of the abusive relationship everything would be fine. Instead, my abuser is continuing his abuse of me and my daughter with the help of the court.”

    Over the course of their on and off 8 year relationship Hensberger was arrested three times for domestic violence and once for child abuse. Since their separation in 2005, Hensberger has been arrested twice for DWI, including once while the daughter was in the car.

    Although the court has ordered Hensberger into alcohol treatment and ordered “absolute sobriety” when having visitation, the daughter claims he continues to drink to excess when she is visiting. The father told the court he had stopped drinking completely. The mother recently had a private investigator follow the father, who found that the father drank heavily on a night he was scheduled to have visitation. In court today the father admitted to his continued drinking; nonetheless the judge still sentenced the mother to jail.

     

    Clearly this judge marches to the beat of a different drummer, or is it $$?  One wonders…



    Hensberger achieved his local 15 minutes of fame in Oconto in March of this year, when he forced his daughter to enter 3 different fishing tournaments using the same fish so that he could collect the money – a story covered widely by local news. While the local media angle related to his transportation of fish against DNR regulations, Ms. Tipton’s concerns were for the well-being of her daughter, who was being taught to lie, cheat and steal by her father. Since this incident, the daughter’s relationship with the father has deteriorated, Tipton claims.
    Additionally, the father’s employment is irregular, his house is in foreclosure and he currently resides with his mother. The daughter claims she is forced to sleep on the floor in the living room or in the unfinished basement since there is no bed or private space for her in the small 2 bedroom house.

    “Sadly, this case typifies the problems we are seeing in Family Courts nationwide,” says Irene Weiser, executive director of StopFamilyViolence. org. “Family court judges are failing to recognize signs of abuse, and are placing children in harms way. {{I DISAGREE.  THEY SEE IT, BUT CHOOSE TO IGNORE IT.  The KEY TO THIS PROBLEM IS WHAT ARE THESE JUDGES PAYING GREATER HEED TO THAN THEIR JUDICIAL MANDATE HERE?}}  Even worse, instead of investigating the abuse allegations, they accuse the parent making the allegations of being vindictive and punish them for taking actions to protect their children. Often judges seem more concerned with maintaining the child’s relationship with the father than ensuring the child’s safety.”

     

    Apparently this mother is now out of jail, and her daughter is back in a different kind of jail sentence, and we will just have to figure out how to grow up around all this.  And the reporters will continue wondering why we have so much rape, violence, and substance abuse, let alone, mental health problems in our country.  Gee, let’s take a wild, educated, guess…

    Again, folks, this is not anomaly, some aberration, some weird exception in upstate (or wherever) Midwestern Dairy State (?) .  No, this is the pattern, this is the intent, and this is the practice in the family courts.  You are watching it.  Watch your headlines….

    At the risk of hammering in this point of HOW it happens, and why (i.e., pointing to probable cause, not just effects), here’s an excerpt from the NAFCJ.net website as to this practice. 

    Further down on this link the “Center for Policy Research” group is mentioned.  Check it out — it’s a key player, and sets a pattern for similar groups…

    Meanwhile, I am saying my prayers for the Tipton family (and mine).

    Child Support role is often a key factor.  Don’t know if it was this time, but t ypically it is.  A broke Mom can’t stick up so well for her rights. 

    ANYTHING below this line is a quote from that NAFCJ site, though not so formatted, which ends my post today. 

    One reason I understand this pattern to make sense is watching the pattern of abuse, individually, between the family of origin and my ex, and the role of finances, etc., develop over the years, and a progression to the careful vocabulary / jargon used to justify it. 

    There is most definitely a system to the chaos. In fact, chaos is the desired status, from what I can see.  (See also Naomi Klein, “The Shock Doctrine,” referring to continental lockdown, etc.)  When people, or a nation, is in shock, it is vulnerable to dictatorship.  That’s why we must FIGHT LIKE HELL for Constitutional rights for all citizens:  male/female, young or old.  This is a language issue, and then practicing what the Constitution says, eliminating something else in one’s life, and forcing legislators, judges, attorneys, and lawyers to practice what they swore an oath to.  It requires checking public records and trying to stop kickbacks, racketeering, double-dipping, and so forth.  This is the price of freedom — vigilance.  And yes, it matters, if it’s not your immediate neighbor!

    —————————————————————————

    Read about Meyer Elkin’s  role in the AFCC is discussed  toward the bottom of their site  AFCC: History page  .  
    Completely omitted from this AFCC history is the very relevant fact that Meyer Elkin also co-founded in 1985, the leading fathers rights group – Children’s Rights Council.  Study these people and their site carefully because it is the “blueprint” of how the courts are organized to rig cases for their paid-up allies.  Nobody has to slip an envelope full of cash into the pocket of a co-conspirators to rig court cases for these people.  It is all done for them by the government.  They get their bribes paid for them !

    The  AFCC never mentions the multiple cross-affiliations between AFCC officials and the fathers rights group including Children’s Rights Council (CRC), founded by David Levy  in 1985, along with several other key AFCC people.  While this vital fact is no where to be found on any of their recent literature, it did appear in the early (pre-Interent) CRC hardcopy newsletters,  which NAFCJ possesses, and uses to discredit this group and the judges who collude with them.  Also in these older CRC newsletters was discussion of grants they received from HHS and the people who worked with them on those grants – people like incest promoters Richard Gardner and Warren Farrell.  CRC allies were put into high-level HHS-ACF position such David Gray Ross, as Commission for Child Support Enforcement (OCSE) -starting in 1993 through approx 1999..  Ross was a Maryland Judge, who people who knew him say was a dead-beat dad himself.  He spent his time as OCSE commissioner instituting regulations, programs and policies favorable to fathers and CRC.  He essentially set up OCSE to be a fathers rights child support avoidance and custody switching agencyThis perversion of  OCSE’s  agency’s original legislative mission continues to-date.  This is the reason why so many custodial mothers can’t collect on their child support arrears, while non-custodial mothers are hounded incessantly and even jailed for support obligations assessed beyond standard guide-lines and beyond their ability to pay.   Other evidence taken from HHS Inspector General Web site reveals even worse corruption at HHS-ACF/OCSE.

    The AFCC claims their focus is on training judges, custody evaluators and mediators about custody and divorce issues. But in reality they are a father focused organization and promoting alienation theories to explain away family violence by men. In reality they act as a “clearinghouse” for organized case rigging.  They hold conferences about parental alienation but never mention the many professional experts who have condemned it as harmful to children or the link to incest promoter Richard GardnerTheir  scheme involves “recruiting” male litigants through fathers groups and federal HHS programs managed by the local child support agencies for program “services” which are ostensibly for helping non-custodial fathers get their visitation rights so they would have less incentive to default on child support obligations

    {{COMMENT: This has absolutely been my experience, and the Center for Policy Research link, and many others, tend to verify it.  I pressed for child support, my kids were STOLEN, and this was rubberstamped.  Have barely seen them for dust since….}}

    Instead the fathers get deals to have their support obligations closed and sent to a program paid attorney to litigant [“litigate”] for custody.  The judge hearing these cases proves [“provides”?] payments to the court-colluding fathers attorney and other supposedly “neutral” court evaluators.   None of this is disclosed to the targeted female litigant who sometimes is also ordered to pay the fees of these court professionals (e.g. illegal double billing).. 

    The father is encouraged to file repeated motions (usually on frivolous claims of visitation denial or alienation) so the co-conspiring court professionals can get a steady stream of government payments.  {{GOT THAT??}} It appears the judge handling these cases gets a kickback from those being paid (with his approval) based on a few exposed examples.  This is what keeps their litigation game going and going.  They label it high-conflict bitter custody litigation to hide their own fraud.  The blame the mother for everything and keep her away from her children so she will be desperate to go back to court and get a chance to convince them of the truth (which of course they already know, and are exploiting perversely against her).

    Basic Judicial ethics prohibits judges from belonging to organizations with people who appear before them in the court cases.  However, this doesn’t stop the crooked  AFCC affiliated judges from appointing Guardian at Litem (child’s attorneys) or court psychological evaluators who are AFCC members to the same cases which the AFCC member judge is handling.  Also the AFCC conducts joint conferences with the CRC – fathers rights group – usually on the subject of Parental Alienation – which they all know has been discredited as being not a valid method for use in court evaluations.

    {{NOTE:  Like other organizations (me talking, again), AFCC may have some fine members.  I know some.  However, like our educational system, this system’s history and intent of the organization stands, and I stand by the above summary of it.}}

    Other people on AFCC’s Board of Directors are many people closely associated with the Children’s Rights Council.  Their  favorite researcher  —  Sanford L. Braver, Ph.D. — was a recipient of a $10M federal grant.  Braver,  found, astoundingly, as a result of his study that after divorce, women do as well financially as men!   Bradford and many other purported “neutral” expert evaluators all work in concert behind the scenes to issue rubber-stamp anti-woman, pro-abusive father evaluations for the primary intent of deliberately covering up for abusive fathers (as a protection racket fueled by federal program graft).  

    Another AFCC founding official is Jessica Pearson, President of Center for Policy Research of Denver, Colorado, which is a primary consultant to the Department of Health and Human Services – Administration for Children & Families (HHS-ACF) which includes OCSE.  Pearson/AFCC have been using their influence for many years to create pro-father programs and protocols which are steered to the pro-father court professionals who train others in the anti-mother evaluation tactics such as PAS.  She has been a frequent speaker at CRC and AFCC conferences and works closely with other fathers rights collaborators to promote PAS in government programs. 

     

    The AFCC has many state chapters which conduct conferences, seminars and workshops on their “latest” practices for handling divorce, custody and related family & children litigation.  Most of the identified AFCC professional members routinely practice anti-woman, pro-abuser father PAS tactics against mothers who complain of child abuse by the father.  Most have a documented history of rubber-stamping every mother as an mentally unstable alienator who is the cause of all the problem and unfit to be around her children.  Of course, they know the truth of what they are really doing – is to trump up reasons to make the mother look bad so they can justify recommending sole custody a father accused of domestic violence, child abuse or support delinquencies
     
    {{GOt those 3 avenues?  Domestic Violence, Child Abuse, Child Support arrears.  She protests, on behalf of the kids, she loses contact with them.  More business for the court.  Alternately, for a supervised visitation center, another “racket” as far as I am concerned.  LetsGetHonest speaking in that regard, not everyone agrees with me on that.  Jack Straton, Ph.D. and a few others seem to have already, though…”What’s Fair for Children of Abusive Men?”}}
     
    This tactic actually works well for them, because so many people are inclined to believe that women can’t take the pressure of martial break-up they “go-crazy”, imagine or even fabricate problems in their attempt to “get-back’ at him.  These tactics are effective against even professional and prominent women.  The commonly heard “bitter custody dispute”  really means: “crazy lying accusatory woman” who drives the man to violence out of shear frustration (lets call this the Alec Baldwin excuse)

    {{YOU WANT TO HELP KIDS?  TRACK THEM THAR FUNDS AND DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT….}}

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    Left from previous news release above…
    StopFamilyViolence. org is a national activist organization that works to ensure safety, justice, accountability and healing for victims of family violence. Irene Weiser coordinates the Family Court Reform Coalition, a coalition of advocates, professionals and organizations formed in response to the national crisis in the custody court system, where all too often, judge’s order children to live with abusers and punish, silence, or jail the parent who tries to protect the children from harm.

    Irene Weiser
    Executive Director
    StopFamilyViolence.org
    331 W. 57th St #518
    New York, NY 10019
    iw@stopfamilyviolence.org 

     

    OK, my commentary again.  See next post (11-17-09) for next installment in this fiasco (or, business as usual, depending on one’s perspective)….

    This mother eventually DID go to jail for failing to force her underaged daughter to allow her father to force himself on her, drive drunk, and other forms of child abuse.  What a few judges with an agenda can do in a system that allows this . . . .  We were pissed off, appropriately.  I’m tired of that!  This mother was sentenced to jail, in 30-day stints, until her girl went back for more of the same (as I heard it). 

    When the girl caved in, her mother was released.  This story is still unfolding. 

    USA, folks, this is not Guantanamo, this is motherhood, USA.  And she wasn’t even a single parent, this time.  How’d you like to marry into that situation? 

    Unjustice and abuse affects EVERYONE….

    It affects the next generation, assuming they live that long. 

    Over the past decade or so, researchers at McGill University in Montreal, led by Michael Meaney, have shown that affectionate mothering alters the expression of genes in animals, allowing them to dampen their physiological response to stress. These biological buffers are then passed on to the next generation: rodents and nonhuman primates biologically primed to handle stress tend to be more nurturing to their own offspring, Dr. Meaney and other researchers have found.

    Now, for the first time, they have direct evidence that the same system is at work in humans. In a study of people who committed suicide published Sunday in the journal Nature Neuroscience, researchers in Montreal report that people who were abused or neglected as children showed genetic alterations that likely made them more biologically sensitive to stress.

    [After Abuse, Changes in the Brain by BENEDICT CAREY

    StopFamilyViolence.org, Feb. 23, 2009]

     

    Scapegoating, trans-millenial, trans-religion, bipartisan — same old “father absence” (meaning, Single Moms).

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    Single mothers have it TOUGH.  Not only do they have to deal , too often, with  that ex that wasn’t absent ENOUGH, like our Lorraine Tipton in Oconto County, WI, facing JAIL for exercising her mother’s instincts and actually function as a personal “Child Protective Service,” when 3 CPS personnel in 2 counties, and a child abuse forensic interviewer confirmed that it had taken place.  That’s TOMORROW, we’re talking about . . . . . Not only do we have to fight like hell to get up to ground level if that guy was abusive or simply unsafe choice to start with, we also bear the blame for all of society’s ills on our narrower-than-his (many times) shoulders. 

    U.S. Women have a Congress that has a paltry representation of half the country, I mean, the female gender, and doing a good bit of the world’s work, too.  Women got the vote after slavery was (supposedly) abolished and after African-American males.  Several wars later, whose cannon-fodder came from US, if we actually stand up for our right NOT to be slapped, beaten, strangled, or risk being killed in the home, AND we gave birth, we are being blamed for society’s ills and have to fight indignant males in the family law courts (and out of them) and forget it when it comes to faith institutions, I say.  And then we wonder about Raising Ophelia . . . . . (That’s a book reference). 

    In a country that supposedly doesn’t buy into such superstitions as religion, but is supposedly tolerant of those who believe a God, their god, is REAL, any substitute superstitions talk will fill the gap.  Which makes my point, man is a religious animal, either that or mentally lazy.  Or mentally stressed out, such that they’d rather pay taxes and let someone else think FOR them, raise the kids FOR them, and produce healthy marriages FOR them. 

    Where they run into REAL trouble is when they run into a REAL mother (meaning, one who knows right from wrong, safe from dangerous, knows the law, and actually protests when it’s broken, particularly with kids involved). 

    As my laptop just got stolen, which along with no car makes life rather difficult — this is post-abuse (supposedly) life – – you get to hear from another person who’s more concise, and appropriately sarcastic.

     

    I mean, listen to Randi James, who gives meaning to the book “Dumbing us Down” by at least talking back to the authorities.

    Notice how (when it begins to cite statistics) how  the golden aura of “stats” seems to lend credibility and au thority to a major foundation’s study.  (Annie E. Casey being among the major ones around, and as far as I can tell, fairly conservative.  They also fund Family Violence Prevention Fund, the great group in San Francisco who (after getting significant increases in federal funding, in fact they’re one of the larger recipients around), showed a marked decrease in on-line presence of the word “Mother.”  I mean, throughout the site.  For reference, see my blog poking fun (although it’s not funy) the Obama administration’s transformation of our President’s single-mother household into a father-absent household.  The word is now “parent” when we want to equalize, and “father-absent” when we want to stigmatize, including by failing to even use the word MOTHER.  Good grief.

    Anyhow I give you this post —  (see link).  Have a nice day!

    Saturday Single Mothers, Absent Fathers, Pirates, Global Warming and All in Between In 2009,

    I can’t believe people are still making the argument that single motherhood causes most of the societal ills, namely high crime rates and teen pregnancy. Have we still not acquired any critical thinking skills along this journey? What about the millions of dollars grant money from DHHS to study all of these problems? How many years do they need in order to figure out the answers?

    In this article, it says that 1 in 7 girls at a certain high school in Chicago, are getting pregnant.

    The principal in this school states, “It can be a lot of things that are happening in the home or not happening in the home, if you will. Absentee fathers are another factor.” Is that the best answer that he could come up with? How, exactly, are absentee fathers contributing to this rate of teen pregnancy? No, I’m serious, I really need someone to explain to me how NOT having a father allows for a teenage girl to get pregnant…..or better yet, maybe you should first detail what, exactly, is an “absentee father”?

    I don’t have a link to the following information, but it was provided by my favorite rape-apologist, Paul Clements:

    “(I)n a recent study by the Baltimore-based Annie E. Casey Foundation. Comparing statistics for its Kids Count report, the organization reported that Detroit ranks No.1 in unmarried births among the nation’s 50 largest cities. Of the 16,729 babies born in Detroit in 1997, 13,574 were black, 1,679 were white and 817 were Hispanic. Seventy-one percent were born to unmarried mothers.

     

    [[Please click link  to see this (and more) in the original context]].

    PS.  When in doubt, or faced with a problem, pour more money at it hoping it will go away.  the HHS and Dept of Educ have been doing this, and STILL our population isn’t “fixed” yet.  Maybe we should let parents do the job (and let Lorraine stay out of jail for doing HER job right).   

    Enforce laws equally, or take them off the books.  It takes 9 months and labor, not  including any breastfeeding (if a judge, should you separate, thinks this is permissible), and the least we can do to mothers is not pretend that they have equal rights under the law just because they are (speaking from my country’s perspective) US citizens.  Or have been living here for a generation or so.

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    October 18, 2009 at 2:57 pm

    “Why does he DO that?” A walk on the wild side…. [with some 2013 updates]

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    (note — see the comment, from 2009. The person “gets” what I was doing in the post, thank you!)

    I am speaking as an owner and long-time appreciator of the book. “Why Does He Do That?  Inside the Minds of Angry & Controlling Men.”.. which showed up like a savior, emotionally, right as my case plummeted from stablized position under protection of a restraining order, into the volatile, “mandatory-mediation” arena of Family Court, which reminded me of “Chutes and Ladders”, with more chutes than ladders.

    You take one false step (or have your family placed at the top of a chute through being hauled into this venue) and are on a chute.

    Kind of like life WITH the abusive guy (or woman) to start with, anyhow, huh?  Hmm…  Wonder why they function similarly!

    (The post on “Family Court Matters a la  board-games” is in pre-development stage, meaning, a little gleam in the blogger’s eye still.  Paper, Scissors Stone (last post) got me thinking for sure…..)

    If you haven’t read Lundy Bancroft’s material AND/OR you are not yourself a victim or being forced to co-parent with a batterer, you’re not fully informed in the domestic violence field, period.

    (2013 Update, In Hindsight):

    Then again, if we’d all been talking about something besides “batterers” perhaps neither Batterers Intervention Programs nor “domestic violence” would have developed into “fields,” coalitions, or industries.

    And the conversation about those fields and how THEY operate is the conversation that no one seems to want to talk about, even as updates to “The Batterer As Parent” have been published and being circulated in various circles.

    I mean, think about it (why didn’t we earlier??)  There is a crime called “assault and battery” — but by the time someone has become a “batter-er” that means, it’s habitual — which means someone else is experiencing “domestic violence.” How can you domesticate “violence” and what’s domestic about it? (Well, you can tame down its labeling and call it domestic “abuse” — which has been done…

    In fact, as it turns out, “BIPs” are actually diversionary programs to criminal prosecution for the beating up on others. Some people figured out, along with programs like, “moral reconation therapy(tm)” and Psychoeducational classes for kids undergoing divorce — that the more programs the merrier. I guess… The money is made upfront in the trainings, yours truly (The United States Government, which is essentially “yours truly” — the taxpayers) set up the policies and the corporations and then runs the population through them every time someone shows up actually needing some realtime social service — or justice — or help.

    I can’t explain it too well in a single post, but this conflict was staged and manipulated in order to obtain more and more central control (literally, an economic stranglehold) on most of us through those of us that are willing to sell out for collaboration, sales, and the conference circuit.  As sincere or genuine as these individuals may be, I do know they are playing on empathy to increase sales.  I do not know whether or not they see the endgame, after their own use has expired in the long-range plan of bankrupting Americans so we are left as a human resource without other options than begging or slavery, at a sheer subsistence level.

    Some of us have been their in marriage, we have been there AFTER filing restraining orders, which were intended to protect us (allegedly), but we were NOT there after even a year or two in the family court Archipelago.

    Somehow, in this destitute and distressed state, we grasp at straws of empathy and keep referring friends and neighbors to explain our own situation to the same types of information — such as if only someone would JUST UNDERSTAND batterers’ psyches, our kids would be safer, and life would be better.

    Anyhow, what follows was from very early in this blog (October 2009) and shows my understanding at that time.  Even then, I was questioning the logic of the question.

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    Analyze This: Wichita Woes — What happened after 911? (1st time, 2nd time).

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    I rest my case on “certifiably insane protection orders”. . . . 

     

    This article is a quiz (answers below).  Do this:

    A.  Put events in order.  

    B.  What piece of the puzzle doesn’t “fit” and which pieces are missing?

    C.  Keeping this within Kansas, bring this case history  to Senator Oletha Faust-Goudeau, recently found sponsoring (yet another) Fatherhood act of some sort in Kansas and ask for commentary.  Request permission to record, and share on youtube with the rest of us, why a man like this needed to be within cutting/shooting range of his 21 month old daughter.  (Because if he didn’t get this, someone was going to pay, bad?).  And how the (decade-plus) of prior fatherhood initiatives may or may not have contributed to this young man’s sense that after punching XXX officers and threatening to slit the throat of his wife, for calling for help, society still owed him something…

    D.  Rewrite the headline, more appropriately reflecting the crucial issues in the case.

    And then Alternately

    E-1.  Pray to the tooth fairy that this isn’t you or anyone you know and/or recite after me:

    E-2.  “it spiraled out of control.  We had no idea.  It spiraled out of control.  The real social crisis of our time is fatherlessness, not lawlessness.  It wasn’t his fault.  It wasn’t her fault.  It wasn’t anyone’s fault.  Nevertheless, the Feds + faith-based + local agencies will fix this situation.  We WILL eradicate violence against women and murder by men if we JUST try harder, train more professionals, and dump some dollars in that direction.  We WILL, right??”


    The children are our future.  Now, Where’s that Valium?

    Kansas.com


    Suspect in deputy’s shooting had violent past

    . . . (and they married WHY???)

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    BY TIM POTTER

    The Wichita Eagle

    The 27-year-old man accused this week of ambushing a Sedgwick County sheriff’s deputy had a history of violence against his ex-wife — and against officers.

    {{For why the word “had” is used, see 2nd article, below}}

     

    In 2005, Richard Lyons’ ex-wife, Jenifer, accused him of holding a hunting knife to her throat and threatening to kill her after she called 911, an affidavit filed in Sedgwick County District Court said.

    Lyons pleaded guilty to aggravated assault and served several months in the county jail followed by about 16 months in a state prison.

    He was released on parole on March 2, 2007. His sentence and parole supervision ended on April 11, 2008, records show.

    In March 2005, four Wichita police officers responded to a report of a disturbance with a knife at his ex-wife’s home in the 900 block of South Waverly, in southeast Wichita.

    Lyons had arrived and “demanded she give him their infant daughter,” the affidavit said.

    She reported that they argued and that after she called 911, Lyons held a 4- to 6-inch knife blade to her throat and threatened her. The knife reportedly came from a sheath attached to his pants.

    “Jenifer said she hung up the phone because she was in fear for her life and believed Richard would carry out his threat,” said the document, used to bring the felony aggravated assault charge against Lyons.

    On the 911 call, a male voice could be heard saying, “I will cut you,” the affidavit said.

    When he went to get a diaper bag in another part of the house, his ex-wife grabbed her two children and fled, the affidavit said.

    At the home, officers found signs of a disturbance, and when they tried to arrest Lyons, he punched two officers, the document said.

    Although prosecutors also initially charged him with two counts of misdemeanor battery against an officer, those two charges were dismissed after he agreed to plead guilty to the more serious charge of aggravated assault, records show.

    His ex-wife obtained a protection-from-abuse order against Lyons.

    In April 2005, about a month after the incident involving his ex-wife, court records show Lyons was living at the house where he is accused of shooting Deputy Brian Etheridge this week — first with a rifle and then with the deputy’s own gun.

    Etheridge was responding to a 911 call from the South Rock Road residence, reporting a theft — a report authorities now think was concocted.

    In Lyons’ 2005 divorce case, court records say he was working for Colortime in El Dorado at the time. The court at one point required him to pay $234 a month in child support.

    At another point in 2005, Lyons temporarily lost visitation with his 1 1/2-year-old daughter because of the incident involving his ex-wife.

    On Tuesday, a man who said he was Lyons’ father declined to comment.

    Lyons’ ex-wife could not be reached.

    In September 2003, about two years before the knife incident, Lyons was convicted of misdemeanor battery against an officer.

    In the years before that, he had been convicted of felony criminal threat and misdemeanor domestic battery and criminal damage to property, records show.

    As a juvenile, he had misdemeanor convictions dating to 1995, when he was 12, for criminal damage to property.

    Wichita school district records show that Lyons withdrew from Metro Boulevard Alternative High School in July 2002.

    Contributing: Hurst Laviana of The Eagle Reach Tim Potter at 316-268-6684 or tpotter@wichitaeagle.com.

    QUIZ ANSWERS (mine) BELOW:  (I interspersed A & B as dialogue)

    Events, apparent order (quite different from article, which jumps around considerably)

    • 1995 Juvenile Richard Lyons, age 12, has misdemeanor convictions for criminal damage to property, ergo he was born about 1983.
    • July 2002, Lyons withdraws from alternative high school (age, about 19)
    • Between age of majority (2001?) and 2003, he has convictions for felony criminal threat AND misdemeanor domestic battery, meaning, probably against a WIFE or GIRLFRIEND.  This is called “domestic violence,” folks.  SEE 1994 VAWA Act.
    • ??? somewhere in there he gets married to Jenifer Lyons.
    • Sept. 2003, misdemeanor Battery against an officer.
    • Somewhere in 2003  Jenifer gives birth to his child.  (Note:  Physical assaults sometimes begin with pregnancy.  Mine did).
    • Somewhere between then and 2005, they get divorced.  (Given the assaults, probably understandable.  What’s not quite understandable is why they got married, unless the pregnancy PLUS her lack of other options to survive (i.e., HER family of origin support), PLUS no doubt some of this federal pushing of marriage on everyone…??  Who knows.  Maybe they wanted to.  Maybe HER household (how old was she?) was a place she needed to get out of.
    • By 2005, he has a child support order in place and is actually, it appears working.  Apparently they’ve entered the family court system somehow, I’d guess.  The man is all of 22 years old, so this is a good thing and possibly a change for him?
    • THIS IS TAKING LONGER THAN I PLANNED.
    • OBVIOUSLY they had “visitation” (unsupervised, obviously).  Note:  He assaults women AND officers, felony-style, and threatenes (someone — seee above).  He destroys property and punches policemen.  NEVERTHELESS, an infant needs her Daddy.  Daddies can be nurturers too.  If we try hard enough, perhaps all of us (through funds, and social support and of course parenting classes) can transform this young man into a real nurturer before he kills someone for telling he can’t combine nurturing infants with wife assault.

    Now in March 2005, things start getting, well, interesting:

    • In 2005, Richard Lyons’ ex-wife, Jenifer, accused him of holding a hunting knife to her throat and threatening to kill her after she called 911, an affidavit filed in Sedgwick County District Court said
    • HEre’s the account, I rearranged some sentences.  Apparently by now there are 2 children (both his?  Maybe not?) 
    1. Lyons had arrived (EXCHANGE OF THE KIDS  RIGHT?  Here’s a CLASSIC CASE involving DV, and no help with the exchange.  Yes, I’d imagine this was in family law system already, totally oblivious (per se!) to the potential danger of the situation, despite lethality assessments and DV literature dating back to at least 1985 (Barbara J. HART), 1989 (Family Visitation Centers started in Duluth Minnesota), 1994 (Violence Against Women Act) and all kinds of other literature.  THis hadn’t reaached the “heartland” yet, I guess. )  and “demanded she give him their infant daughter,” the affidavit said.  ((OMISSION – was there a custody/visitation in order or not?  if so, was it clear and specific, as many states require (but don’t practice) cases involving DV be, to avoid incidents like this?  If it WAS clear and specific, was his demand in compliance with or NOT in compliance with that order?  As they say, and we see, this isn’t typically a guy that plays by the rules, not even the rules for graduating from high school, or refraining from damaing others’ propery.  We’ll, he’s about graduate from punching officers to putting a knife to his wife’s throat.  I wonder if this was the first time….)
    2. She reported that they argued {{POSSIBLY OVER WHETHER OR NOT IT WAS HIS TIME TO SEE HIS DAUGHTER?}} and that after she called 911, {{POSSIBLY THE ARGUMENT CONTAINED SOME THREAT OR PHYSICAL ELEMENTS?}} Lyons held a 4- to 6-inch knife blade to her throat and threatened her. The knife reportedly came from a sheath attached to his pants.  {{May I speculate that perhaps Mrs. Lyons was aware that Mr. Lyons sometimes carried knives, and this may have contributed to her decision to call 911, even if the argument was only “verbal” in nature?}} 
    3. On the 911 call, a male voice could be heard saying, “I will cut you,” the affidavit said.  (I’m going to assume this is “evidence” and it was his, not a responding officer’s.  I will further assume that this was a criminal prosecution, because someone actually got ahold of that 911 call.  GIVEN the history, was this a creditable threat?  It appears to the reader that her report was accurate in this part.  Contrary to the “false allegations” stigma associated with women reporting violence (or threats of it), ” because they want to get custody,” this report seems to have some merit.
    1. “Jenifer said she hung up the phone because she was in fear for her life and believed Richard would carry out his threat,” said the document, used to bring the felony aggravated assault charge against Lyons.  {AS FURTHER DEVELOPMENTS SHOW, YES HE WAS CAPABLE OF AND WILLING TO COMMIT MURDER WHEN HE FELT WRONGED OR WAS ANGRY OR ??  SO HERE, SHE DROPS THE “911” METHOD OF SELF PRESERVATION AND, if I may add, protecting her children, WITH HER KIDS OPTS FOR THE “FLEE” METHOD.   Amazingly, a charge was actually filed.  For why, possibly, read on.
    2. When he went to get a diaper bag in another part of the house, his ex-wife grabbed her two children and fled, the affidavit said.  {{I have done this flee while he’s in the other part of the house routine, often enough}}
    3. HERE COME THE RESPONDING OFFICERS:  In March 2005, four Wichita police officers responded to a report of a disturbance with a knife at his ex-wife’s home in the 900 block of South Waverly, in southeast Wichita.   {{Officers KNOW domestic violence wih a weapon can be lethal.  They didn’t send one custody evaluator, one parenting educator, one mediator, and one guardian ad litem, they sent FOUR officers, and I BET they were armed…  Yet women are left to face this, sometimes weekly, without adequate protection.}}
    4. At the home, officers found signs of a disturbance, and when they tried to arrest Lyons, he punched two officers, the document said.

    Not one but 2 officers.  Tell them to thank Wade Horn, George Bush (Jr.), former President Clinton, present President Obama, (well, adjust for the year), and others for those punches to the face.  Father-engagement.  Healthy Families. . .. You’re in it. . . . . . .   Were these male and female officers, I wonder, and which ones got punched.  But in an incident, it could easily be any of them.

    Moving on in our sequencing:

    5.  Prosecutors initially charged him with two counts of misdemeanor battery against an officer.

    6.  he agreed to plead guilty to the more serious charge of aggravated assault.  (good move, as they saw evidence, and he was already heard on tape threatening to cut her.)

    7.  The lesser charges (above) were dismissed.  Is this called a “plea-bargain?

    8.  His ex-wife obtained a protection-from-abuse order against Lyons.   (((WHEN?? see last post on police reporting of incidents).  Now?  Or had she earlier?  Criminal, or civil?)

     

    NOW — figure out this timeline if you can:

    9.  Lyons pleaded guilty to aggravated assault (See 6, above.  WHEN?  WHAT MONTH 2005?) and

    10. served several months in the county jail followed by about 16 months in a state prison.

    March 2007 is 24 months from March 2005 (date of assault).  Ergo “about 16 months” plus “several months” possibly does NOT add up to 24.  How many people do this kind of mental math when reading leading bleeding headlines?  

    March 2005 (arguing, resulting in 911 call, threatening to slit wife’s throat in retaliation for calling 911, with 2 kids, one of them a toddler girl, in the home, Mom + 2 flee for safety, 4 police come, 2 of whom are punched) – March 2007 is most definitely 24.

    The question is, what is “several” months?  Is it 8, or 9 (8 + 16 = 24, right?)   WHEN did he plea-bargain?  After punching officers and threatening to kill wife was he then RELEASED in this foul mood?  If he threatened to slit her throat and assaulted people who tried to help in March 2005, what kind of response might we expect after being sentenced, if he was released on bail?

    11. He was released on parole on March 2, 2007.

    12. His sentence and parole supervision ended on April 11, 2008, records show.

     

    What this section of reporting does is to reassure that his crime (of — see above) was indeed punished properly.  Or was it?

    13.  In April 2005, about a month after the incident involving his ex-wife, court records show Lyons was living at the house where he is accused of shooting Deputy Brian Etheridge this week — first with a rifle and then with the deputy’s own gun.

    Omittting the obvious — after arrest (i’m going to hazard a guess that the 2 punched officers or their colleagues eventually handcufffed the guy) he was free on bail or own recognizance until arraignment and incarceration

    YES, you read it right, finally.  Threaten to slit her throat, punch TWO responding officers, and get out scot free, for a few months.  This is an interesting sentence (I don’t operate under press deadlines, but still . . . . .  the sentence bridges four years of time:  2005 & 2009!)  Well, not quite scot free.  He was punished with not seeing his daughter, “temporarily.”  Wonder what time frame THAT word spans.

    14.  At another point in 2005, {{Can we get a hint which month?}} Lyons temporarily lost visitation with his 1 1/2-year-old daughter because of the incident involving his ex-wife.

    When I filed for a DV restraining order with kickout, and we had the guns, knives and assaults thing, but not on officers — we got ALMOST 7 days with no visitation, as I recall.  Perhaps at the most 14, as he had to find a place to live.

     

    Now here is about the slain officer:

    1. Sheriff: Deputy was ambushed
    2. Suspect in deputy’s shooting had violent past
    3. Marriage came as a surprise to Johansson
    4. Deputy was quiet, funny, passionate about his work
    5. Opinion Line (Sept. 30)
    6. Robbers strike as police look for killer
    7. Deputy’s funeral set for Friday
    8. Sedgwick County Commission remembers slain deputy
    9. Opinion Line Extra (Sept. 30)
    10. Wichita man arrested on suspicion of animal cruelty

     

    Sheriff was Ambushed

    A black band around the badge of Sheriff Bob Hinshaw. The badges are in honor of deputy Brian Etheridge, who was shot and killed in the line of duty on Monday.

    WICHITA – Richard Lyons set the trap shortly before noon on Monday by calling 911 to report a theft at his house.

    He then hid in the shadows of a tree and brush in the backyard of a house in the 3600 block of South Rock Road with a high-powered rifle, authorities said Tuesday. He waited for a law enforcement officer to show up.

    That happened to be Sedgwick County sheriff’s Deputy Brian Etheridge.

    “It does appear to have been an ambush situation,” Sheriff Bob Hinshaw said Tuesday of the shooting death of Etheridge, 26, the first Sedgwick County deputy to die in the line of duty in 12 years.

    Lyons, 27, was shot to death a few hours later in a field not far from the house in an exchange of gunfire with law enforcement officers.

    “It’s scary,” Hinshaw said. “It could have been any law enforcement officer… this was just a call to 911 to get any officer to respond.”

    Investigators spent Monday night and Tuesday collecting shell casings and other evidence, Hinshaw said, piecing together a chain of events from what was left behind.

    Based on that evidence, Hinshaw offered this account:

    Lyons called 911 at 11:42 a.m. Etheridge was dispatched to the address just east of McConnell Air Force Base and radioed his arrival at 11:51 a.m.

    When no one answered his knock on the front door, he asked dispatchers for contact information for the caller. He then walked around to the backyard of the house and saw no one.

    Lyons was hiding in the shadows on the bright, sunny day, and opened fire with a .30-30 rifle — a weapon commonly used by deer hunters — when Etheridge turned his back as he was either approaching the back door or returning to the front of the house, Hinshaw said.

    The bullet hit Etheridge in the back, penetrating his body armor and knocking him down. Lyons approached the fallen deputy and tried to fire his rifle again, but it malfunctioned.

    He took Etheridge’s gun and shot him in the leg before disappearing.

    Etheridge radioed for help, and scores of law enforcement officers from throughout the metropolitan area converged on the scene.

    The wounded deputy was alert and communicating with the first officers on the scene, Hinshaw said, but their priority at that time was his medical care — not gathering information about the suspect.

    Escorted by patrol cars, an ambulance raced Etheridge to Wesley Medical Center, where he underwent surgery.

    Authorities established a one-mile perimeter around the house and urged residents inside that area to leave if possible.

    Wichita Police Chief Norman Williams said authorities had information indicating Lyons was likely inside the house, so that address remained the focus of their attention even as law enforcement officers combed outlying areas within the perimeter.

    Tear gas was deployed twice into the house in attempt to flush the suspect out, Williams said, and SWAT team members were preparing to blast open the front door at about 5:15 p.m. when authorities were notified that the suspect had been spotted hiding near a tree row in a nearby field.

    Agents from the Kansas Highway Patrol and the Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco, Firearms and Explosives were patrolling a field in a Humvee when one of the officers spotted Lyons’ leg as he lay on the ground.

    They stopped the Humvee, and Lyons stood up and fired at the vehicle with the deputy’s handgun. He then began running, firing several more shots as the ATF agents and KHP officers ran after him.

    The law enforcement officers returned fire, striking Lyons “multiple times,” Hinshaw said.

    Lyons was taken to Wesley Medical Center, where he was pronounced dead at 6:10 p.m.

    Investigators hope to talk to neighbors and relatives of Lyons, Hinshaw said, but he doesn’t expect every question raised by the shooting to be answered.

    “We may never know what the motive is,” he said.

    Results of the investigation, including the use of force, will be presented to the District Attorney’s Office for review.

    Flags at Wichita City Hall and other city buildings have been lowered to half staff in honor of Etheridge. They will remain at half staff through Friday, the day of Etheridge’s funeral.

    “We’re just really shocked and saddened by what has happened,” Mayor Carl Brewer said. “It has affected all of our law enforcement agencies.”

    Brewer said the city is providing counselors for police officers who were involved in the shoot-out and others who may be shaken by the violence.

    “Every time they make a stop or enter a house, they don’t know what’s going to happen,” he said. “This demonstrated just how much risk there is.”

    Reach Stan Finger at 316-268-6437 or sfinger@wichitaeagle.com.

     

    FIRST 911 — from a woman — consequence, she’s threatened and has to flee for her life, BUT her ex-husband IS jailed — for about 2 years, or less.


    SECOND 911 — from the formerly jailed young man (27 yrs old is young) — his ambush.  SOMEONE was going to pay.  Was Etheridge (the officer killed) a responding officer in the former arrest, or just anyone in uniform would do?  Was he upset at what had happened in prison?

    Was this suicide by cop?  Sounds like possibly, to me.

     

    WOULD IT HAVE PLAYED OUT DIFFERENTLY IF THE COUPLE HAD STAYED TOGETHER, OR WOULD SHE BE A STATISTIC, NOT THE OFFICER?

    ANYONE WANT TO DO A PSYCHOLOGICAL WORK-UP ON THIS ONE (PLACE BESIDE THE WORK-UPS ON PHILLIP GARRIDO, AND HIS WIFE?)  WAS IT UNEMPLOYMENT MADE HIM DO IT?  WAS IT THE CHILD SUPPORRT ORDER?  WAS IT ACTUALLY TAKING CONSEQUENCES FOR CRIMINAL ACTIVITY?  WAS IT HIS LACK OF A FATHER IN THE YOUTHFUL HOME (FATHER CONTACTED DECLINED TO COMMENT).  DID HE NOT HAVE A PLACE IN SOCIETY, WAS THAT IT?  WAS HE ON MEDS?  was he FORMERLY ON MEDS AND NOW OFF MEDS?  

    WOULD’IT HAVE BEEN BETTER TO, AT ABOUT $20K/PRISONER/YEAR (??) KEEP HIM IN  LONGER, OR INDEFINITELY?  

    DO YOU UNDERSTAND WHAT I SAID EARLIER ABOUT “COLLATERAL DAMAGES” OF DV (OR SIMILAR PHRASE) IN YESTERDAY’S POST?

     

    I do have one comment, here:  Something sounds narcissistic in the mix.  This person was supposedly a hell-raiser from an early age, but didn’t get help.  Possib ly being a father was a shot at sanity, but I think that the child support order was probably NOT a good idea for such a person.  It would’ve been better for all to let her do welfare.  She’d probably get off it quicker without the threats to her life than with them.

     

    DOMESTIC VIOLENCE RESOURCES IN KANSAS:

    http://www.ksag.org/page/domestic-violence  (Attorney General Site):

    Domestic Violence

    The new Domestic Violence Unit within the Kansas Attorney General’s Office seeks to keep our families safe, stop domestic abuse and end the cycle of violence that threatens our communities.

    Online Resources:

    (Be sure to catch this “get inside their head” speculation (many didn’t apply to my case, i know):  date:

    Source: The Battered Woman by Lenore Walker, Harper & Roe, 1979.  (I’m comforted to know that the Attorney General has the latest psychological profile of batterers and their victims — only 30 years old…..) 

    • Believes all the myths about battering relationships  {{NO one questioned me, and I hadn’t heard these…}}
    • A traditionalist about the home, strongly believes in family unity and the prescribed sex role stereotype  {{The alternative being, punishment….}}  {{BY THE WAY, this now describes the Health and Human Services Dept., in general, on this matter….}}
    • Accepts responsibility for the batterer’s actions  {{SAYS WHO?}}

    Resources for Law Enforcement

     

    Child Exchange and Visitation Center Program – (CEVC)

    This program provides supervised child exchange or supervised child visitation to children and families at risk because of circumstances relating to neglect; substance abuse; emotional, physical, or sexual abuse; domestic or family violence; etc. The state portion of funding can be used to fund the local match required for receipt of federal child exchange and visitation center grants.

    Mighta been helpful for Jenifer Lyons . . . . . 

    The Essential Elements and Standards of 

    Batterer Intervention Programs in Kansas  

    The Essential Elements and Standards of Batterer Intervention Programs were developed over 

    seven years through the hard work of many professionals who are dedicated to ending 

    domestic violence in Kansas.   The Kansas Coalition Against Sexual and Domestic Violence 

    convened the initial work group and wishes to thank the following organizations for their work 

    during this process: 

    Developed and/or Reviewed by representatives from the following: 

    Alternatives to Battering, Topeka 

    Correctional Counseling of Kansas, Wichita   {{MAYBE Mr. Lyons got this and didn’t take kindly to it?”}}{{Or, the problem was, he DIDN’t get it?}}

    Family Crisis Center, Great Bend 

    Governor’s Domestic Violence Fatality Review Board 

    Halley Counseling, P.A., Girard 

    Johnson County Office of Court Services 

    The Family Peace Initiative, Girard 

    Kansas District Judges’ Association 

    Kansas Attorney General Carla Stovall 

    Kansas Attorney General Steve Six 

    Kansas Coalition Against Sexual and Domestic Violence 

    Kansas County and District Attorney Association 

    Kansas Department of Corrections  

    The Mental Health Consortium 

    Office of Judicial Administration 

    Sexual Assault/Domestic Violence Center, Hutchinson 

    Wyandotte Mental Health Center 

    Family Crisis Center, GreatIn 2007, The Governor’s Domestic Violence Fatality Review Board (GDVFRB), chaired by 

    former Attorney General Robert Stephen appointed a subcommittee to review and update the 

    Essential Elements and Standards of Batterer Intervention Programs. The GDVFRB adopted 

    these as best practice standards in providing batterer intervention programming in Kansas, and 

    recommended that the Office of Attorney General implement a training and certification program 

    for providers of batterers intervention programs. 

    Attorney General Steve Six readily accepted the recommendation to train and certify batterer 

    intervention providers in Kansas using the Essential Elements and Standards of Batterer 

    Intervention Programs in Kansas.   

    For More information about this initiative, contact the  

    Director of Victim Services in the office of 

     Kansas Attorney General  

    Steve N. Six 

    120 S.W. 10th Avenue 

    Topeka KS 66612-1597 

    785/368-8445

     

    “FATHERHOOD  IN KANSAS (google, results 124,000)

     

    ACCESS VISITATION IN KANSAS:

    Child Custody, Support and Visitation Rights – Kansas Bar 

    Visitation, often called “access” is the right of the parent who does not …. Child support and visitation are considered by statute in Kansas to be two 
    http://www.ksbar.org/public/public…/child_custody.shtml – Cached – Similar – 


    Crisis Resource Center of SE Kansas –

    Child Exchange and Visitation Center. 669 South 69 Hwy.  Wichita Childrens Home Child Access. 810 North Holyoke 
    http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/…/access_visitation…/ks.html – Cached – Similar – 


    Kansas Governor Mark Parkinson website  Funding Source, The Federal State Access &Visitation grant program is a formula grant program to states and 
    http://www.governor.ks.gov/grants/grants_savppp.htm – Cached – Similar – 

     

    1. Overland Park Visitation Attorney | Leawood KS Parenting Plans 

       

      Visitation & Parenting Plans. Kansas Visitation Lawyer  custody or non- residential custody, your children have the right of access to both parents. 
      http://www.cavlaw.com/PracticeAreas/Visitation-Parenting-Plans.asp – Similar – 


      You will have access, at our Download Site, to the legal forms you need to modify custody-visitation in Kansas

      These forms are the most current versions 
      http://www.custodycenter.com/MODIFYCUSTODY-KS/index.html



      Following an emotional breakup, many moms allow or deny visitation by whim, {{OR WHEN HE THREATENS TO SLIT ONE’s THROAT< CASE IN POINT}}
      leaving the dads without regular access to their children. 
      http://www.kslegalhelp.com/Divorce-and-Family…/Paternity.shtml – Cached – Similar – 



      YES, THERE WAS A DIRE LACK OF SERVICES FOR MR. LYONS…

    The ACES study — Bridging apparent Skipped Synapses in Family Court thinking….

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    Happy Labor Day post.  I give you one study I refer to often on this blog, that dates back to 1998, and one (more) inane/insane custody discussion from Australia, case dating 1999-2003, and topic, joint legal custody and visitation with a young girl and the father who crushed her baby brother’s skull with his bare hands, baby being 3 weeks old and in his father’s arms at the time.  The court is less concerned with that behavior than the mother’s “phobia” (odd label, eh?) about that behavior.  Nothing much new for Family Law Arena — this is its speciality, in fact, stigmatizing parents that actually seek to protect their kids from trauma, abuse, and possible (in that case) death.

     

    ACES (below):  Bridging the Gap between Childhood Trauma and . . . . .Negative consequences later in life.

     

    Or should I call this bridging the gap between theory and reality?  Which results in the ever-widening “Chasm,” the Court public Credibility Gap.

    So, how does one talk with mad engineer at the helm of a runaway train with one’s kids on it?  How get one’s kids safely OFF the train?  because in this venue, it doesn’t seem possible.  If they spend the duration of their childhood on this train, perhaps this will become their new “normal” and then another generation of trainsters and railway-hoppers will grow up, have kids, and provide new cargo for this Trip to Nowhere (except the trips to the bank for the railroad and its employees).  Like the formerly renowned rail system in the U.S., it took a lot of subsidy to keep the thing operational.

    There are basically two types of conversations going through the courts:  

    1.  IN open court — in open, and 

    2.  Behind closed doors — in private.

    The heart of the matter is in the 2nd arena.  Best interests of the child is static, sound-fluff and media-bytes.  It’s not reality, and I don’t any longer believe that any one who makes a living in this arena seriously, seriously believes in this paradigm — or if they do, their eyes are simply closed, because the cat is out of the bag.  

    I believe the language the speak, as any good employee or business person truly does, is that of who is paying their bills. One reason I know this is that I actually experienced leaving an abusive marriage, and how vital a part finances was in getting free.  I also watched systematic economic abuse (mismangement, comandeering of access to basic funds/cash flow/steady jobs that would make this possible, and so forth), which restricted and delayed the exit.   

    Which would you be more accountable to as a secretary whose family’s food and rent (lifestyle) depends on your pleasing that employer?  Up to your own personal level of moral/social tolerance (and ability to choose), a disgruntled customer in the waiting room or on the phone?  Or your employer?    . . . . Well, what about judges and other professionals, some of whose salary (US$) is well over $100,000 and lifestyles and associates to match?  Along with judgeships go political influence and possibly later activity — it’s a career path.  It took a lot of convincing in California (and publicity) for these judges to give up (statewide) their almost $20 million in SUPPLEMENTAL pay, but not until one of their own, an attorney in Los Angeles, was firmly intimidated and jailed for reporting financial corruption (Richard Fine case), which was his actual job to do in this city, as I understood it.  He was put in punitive solitary conffinement, moreover, and I heard, disbarred, for actually bucking this system.

    However, these articles ARE about “best interests of the child” and whose head is where in being unable to figure that out in a given case involving infanticide! Or other horrors to any growing child, or the parent of any such child.

     

    I am going to start grading the Family Law systems in my country, and in any country that imitates policies that I give an “F” in my country:

     

    1998 THIS study is also old, and underestimated.  Probably because of its common sense, like the 1989 and 1992 ones I quoted earlier, from NOMAS, talking about why the HECK have we got to continue exposing each new generation of children to more and more parents who batter, and then posing STUPID questions like, why is the next generation ending up in jail, or beating THEIR women, or taking the assaults, either.

    WHY is business as usual, THAT’s why.  A case came to light today where an Australian court (dealing with similar issues down under) is ordering psychiatric evaluation for the mother of a two-year old because the two-year-old’s father, quickly knocking up another woman, had just crushed to death the newborn (3 weeks old) infant with his bare hands, in response to the baby’s crying.  The man is in jail, and the court is trying to tell the mother that she needs to have her head examined for wanting to make sure this doesn’t happen to the one that came out of HER womb.  No, I am not kidding!

     

    FAMILY LAW – Children – parenting orders – contact in prison – father incarcerated for killing child of another relationship – specific phobic anxiety of the primary carer and compromised capacity to care for the child – no significant contact ordered.

    At what point do we get to have the COURT’s “head”  – and values — examined?   ???

     

    O & C [2005] FMCAfam 200 (29 April 2005)

    Last Updated: 6 June 2005

    FEDERAL MAGISTRATES COURT OF AUSTRALIA

    REASONS FOR JUDGMENTIntroduction – the proceedings

    1. This matter comes before me as the final hearing of the competing applications of the various parties concerning B M C born 9 March 1999. Final parenting orders were made in relation to B on 20 February 2002 whereby B lived with the mother and the father had regular contact. However, on 11 March 2003, the father killed his newborn child of another relationship, Z, and the father is now incarcerated until approximately February 2006.

    Yes you read that right.  Infanticide:  3 years.  3 hots and a cot.  Wonder if he’ll get out on parole early, like Garrido did, in time for a repeat performance.  Sounds like it didn’t affect his entitlement much, being incarcerated for baby-killing; he still wants to assert his shared parenting responsibilities and rights.  Where’s KING SOLOMON (of the Bible) when you need him?   Where’s the anti-abortion pro-lifers when you need them?  This mother, of child “B” is a pro-lifer.  She doesn’t want HER kid to suffer the same fate.  For expressing and acting on this protective, motherly sentiment, she may be sentenced to a lifetime — or at least for the duration of B’s childhood — of having her “head examined” over this “phobia.”

    “Phobia” being, I guess, being afraid of something the Court isn’t afraid of, probably because it’s not the Court’s offspring involved or at risk.


    2. The proceedings were initiated by the mother filing an application on 1 July 2003 in which she sought that previous parenting orders made by this court on 20 February 2002 be suspended and that she have sole responsibility for making decisions about the long term and day to day care, welfare and development of B. Effectively, she sought that there be no contact between B and the father.

    3. On 21 November 2003 a Form 3 response was filed and served on behalf of the father  {{BEING AS HE WAS INCARCERATED??}}. Relevantly, the father sought joint responsibility for long term decisions affecting B and contact in prison 

     

    RELEVANT:  What the jailed Dad wants.

    IRRELEVANT:  what the killed 3-week old baby wanted before his Daddy crushed his skull together:  probably either some cuddling, a diaper change, some milk, or to be held differently.  Or his Mama.

    IRRELEVANT:  What the mother wants, safety for HER kid, and her concerns taken seriously.

    YES, this WAS 2006, “DOWN UNDER,” and a term well-earned from what I can see of this decision, at least.

    As to his paternal grandparents:  Well, their son was an adult at the time, but still, they raised this guy.  PERHAPS this should be considered “relevant” in allowing unsupervised contact of child “B” with them.  (Not mentioned are her parents. . . . or mother of the deceased newborn.    )

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    I give you one more reason (not including Phillip Garrido, Jaycee Dugard, and any woman who opts to marry a convicted kidnapper and raper) to take domestic violence seriously:  The children:

       

     

    What is the ACE Study?

    The ACE Study is an ongoing collaboration between the Centers for Disease Control and 
    Prevention and Kaiser Permanente.  Led by Co-principal Investigators Robert F. Anda, MD, 
    MS, and Vincent J. Felitti, MD, the ACE Study is perhaps the largest scientific research study 
    of its kind, analyzing the relationship between multiple categories of childhood trauma 
    (ACEs), and health and behavioral outcomes later in life.

     What’s an ACE?

    Growing up experiencing any of the following conditions in the household prior to age 18:

     

    1. Recurrent physical abuse
    2. Recurrent emotional abuse
    3. Contact sexual abuse
    4. An alcohol and/or drug abuser in the 
      household
    5. An incarcerated household member
    6. Someone who is chronically depressed, 
      mentally ill, institutionalized, or suicidal
    7. Mother is treated violently
    8. One or no parents
    9. Emotional or physical neglect

     

    Origins and Essence of the Study (2003)

     

    ADVERSE CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES AND STRESS:  PAYING THE PIPER (2004?)

     

    The findings of the Adverse Childhood Experiences Study, an ongoing collaboration between Co-Principal 

    Investigators Vincent J. Felitti, MD, of Kaiser Permanente, and Robert F. Anda, MD, MS, of the Centers for 

    Disease Control and Prevention. 

     

     

    Because the two links above are in multi-column format, I can’t copy and paste.  I exhort you to take a look at some of this.

     

    Please note that “one or no parents” was NOT on the top of the list, as it is on current “fatherhood.gov” policy, or HHS/ACF grants prioritization in the Designer Family mode it appears to be stuck in.

     

    Women, including women like me, whose children have been exposed to from 1 to all of the factors above, are after removing their children FROM such factors, having the courts force them back in through shared parenting considerations.  IN this case the theoretical ideal is held over the head, and clubbing protective parents, of the practical reality that Batterers do NOT make Good parents until they thoroughly address the battering behavior, and what drives it.  Moreover, men have graduated with flying colors from programs allegedly adjusting their attitudes, and gone right out to murder that bitch who forced them to sit through it (McAlpin is one case that comes to mind, Bay Area, 2005.  Within just a few days, her body was discovered in a trunk).

     

     

     

     

    Again, the issue becomes who gets to rig the test and give the grades?  I give any policy that lacks common sense — protect the kids! — and ignores the golden rule and “F.”

     

    Golden Rule in Family Law:  Do unto OTHERS as you would have them do unto YOU (i.e., if it were YOUR kid, whose father just killed a newborn, would you as a judge order the woman who was alarmed at said murder to have her head examined, and the child ordered into contact with the parents of the killer, OR would you yourself be alarmed, and rule accordingly?)

     

    If it’s not good enough for YOUR kid, it’s not good enough for HER kid.  That’s the golden rule in the courtroom, I say.

     

    This of course presumes that a judge cares about his or her own kids, which may be a presumption indeed; some judges have been convicted of collecting child pornography and making some of it (Thompson, NJ), another of sexual harassment of female employees (Fed. District judge in Texas).